Woman demands friend's frequent flyer miles to take a beach trip with her boyfriend: 'She immediately went off about how I'm "stingy"'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Aug 20, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Just because you didn't buy something doesn't mean you didn't earn it. I didn't buy my sense of style. But if somebody tried to steal it, I would be pretty upset. The Wachowski sisters didn't buy the script to their movie The Matrix, but if somebody stole their screenplay and passed it off as their own, I'd imagine they'd be furious. I didn't buy this birthday cake. My mom made it for me. But if a thief stole it from my windowsill, I'd sue. All to say, you're entitled to your own belongings. 

This includes frequent flyer miles. You earned them by taking flights and being a loyal customer to a specific airline. You gain them with credit card points, delayed flights, or any other manner. Maybe you didn't buy them outright with your debit card, but they're still yours. You don't have to give them to anyone else. Especially if it's just your friend who wants to go on a beach vacation with her boyfriend. But that didn't stop one woman from asking. 

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    Two women sit on a couch looking upset.
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  • She thought that she could find a way to take a flight without paying for it. But what she didn't realize is that her friend wasn't as stupid as she thought she was. Read on to see what happened in the story and decide what you would've done in the situation.

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    Friend demanded my frequent flyer miles for her vacation.

    I travel a lot for work and rack up airline miles. I usually save them for emergencies or to visit family. A friend recently found out and asked if I'd "gift" her my miles so she could take her boyfriend on a beach trip. I politely said no, I've been saving them for years and I want to use them for myself.
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    She immediately went off about how I'm "stingy" and that "miles are just sitting there, doing nothing." When I said, "They're not yours to give away," she replied, "Well, if you're not using them, it's basically a waste." She hasn't spoken to me since. Honestly, not a loss.
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    Commenters agreed this was out of bounds.

    Haif... 4d ago Edited 4d ago Ask her to give you the balance of her checking and savings accounts. That money is just sitting there, doing nothing. If she's not using the money, it's basically a waste.
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    Osro 4d ago . "You know all that time I spend away from my family and friends when I'm on the road working? Those sad miles are my payment for the missed memories and fun times. No I'm not giving those away" - you
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    WantToBelievelnMa... . 4d ago "Hey friend, I just learned you earn money. I want some so I can spend it on my next vacation." Tell her the air miles are part of your salary and it is weird as f* for her to ask
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    HumbleCoyoteGames ·4d ago My husband used to have a job where he travelled a lot and he was given a Hilton Honors credit card as his work card. He ended up building up a lot of points and we went to a Hilton all inclusive resort in Mexico for
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    The image does not depict the actual subjects of the story. Subjects are models.

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    basically free (this was in 2014) When his friend found out, he asked to use the points for his own vacation. My husband explained that we used all of them and it would take awhile to build that much up again.
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    Thankfully his friend was understanding, even apologized for asking, and never brought it up again... | can't imagine someone getting mad about it. So weird to me.
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    • United-Platypus-602 4d ago I would never talk to this woman again. She just showed you exactly who she is, this will never change.
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    Snoo-74562 · 4d ago Top tip. Use them semi regularly because the airline can change their value at any point.
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    almeuit 4d ago It is wild to me how so many people have become entitled to others things. Beyond logic.
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    TGICYDAY. 4d ago Not a friend. Sounds like somebody you used to know.
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    IceBlue 4d ago You're saving them. They aren't going to waste if you use them eventually. By her logic putting money in the bank is wasting money.
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    Fearless-Ad-5702 2d ago • "They're not doing nothing. They're accumulating so / can use them when / want to, because they're mine. You're right I'm being stingy, because I earned them for me, not for you. Would you give me your frequent flier miles if I just asked for them? No? Didn't think so. So why in the h I should I give you mine?"
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    Sub_Umbra • 4d ago She immediately went off about how I'm "stingy" and that "miles are just sitting there, doing nothing." I'm just gonna guess she's not the "savings account" type...
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    pegasussoaringhigh · 4d ago If you had money in a savings account that you weren't currently spending, but saving for the future, it would be the same situation. It's yours, not hers, and she has no right to insult you.
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    PristineCloud • 3d ago She did you a favor. Block her so you can't be tempted to be friendly if she decides to call you again. Be careful telling people personal info as well. That could fit into that category
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    Bizcut1 4d ago It is just amazing how selfish and self-centered some people are...she did you a favor. Good riddance.
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    Honest-Banana-4514 4d ago . Demand something very precious of her's which is just sitting in her home and let's see her reaction then.
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    Southern_Ad_1419. 4d ago Gifting miles isn't free. Gifting enough miles for a standard domestic ticket is going to cost a minimum of $200 (Southwest may be the exception as they have lower gifting costs). Does she expect you to pay that, too?
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    sallystruthers69 4d ago Some friend. Does she feel entitled to the prize in your cereal box, too?
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    Entire_Dog_5874 • 4d ago She's not your friend. True friends don't behave this way.
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    mtinmd 4d ago Demanded? Lol Demanded something she didn't earn? LMAO She can go f herself.
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    remedydcds ⚫ 4d ago Reach back out in about 15 years so you can ask for some of her 401k $$$. Incredible
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    Maleficentendscurse 4d ago • I saw the last sentence I just wanted to still put this in "I'm the one that earned these miles not you you're not entitled to things that I built up over time so no you won't be getting anything for me and prefer to go permanent no contact with your entitled little self, goodbye"
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    Then proceed the block them from your phone and every social media right in front of them, and completely ignore their existence from then on
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