Employee admits to coworker she's the reason they resigned from their job, after months of doing all her neglected tasks: ‘I couldn't continue working with her’

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    AITA for telling my coworker she’s the reason I resigned?

    I (F, 27) recently resigned from my university job. People assumed I did because I want a more stable job (work in government).
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    But honestly, the real reason was a toxic coworker who used to be my close friend. I actually helped her get her job.
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    I shared materials, teaching tips, and record-keeping techniques so she could adjust. I even went out of my way by talking to each people we work with to help her adjust.
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    I really wanted her to succeed. A few months in, rumors started that she was an "other woman" of a married colleague.
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    People warned me about her, but I defended her and stood by her even when it made me look bad (I didn't know what they we're doing to be labelled as having an affair).
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    Things changed when she snapped at me after I suggested a better way to organize her records.
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    After that, I stopped involving myself in her tasks. From then on, she avoided her assigned office and didn't complete simple tasks I gave her, like shelf reading and reshelving (we work in a library).
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    This year, I assigned her the semestral inventory because i was busy with an upcoming evaluation and visit.
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    She acknowledged it in a meeting, but the semester ended and nothing was done.
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    During summer, she used "Teacher's Leave" as an excuse not to do the semestral inventory assigned to her earlier.
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    She said she could if she's allowed to work during "Teacher's Leave" so she asked me to draft a letter asking her for work,
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    later I found out it was so she could earn service credits.
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    was called by our admin and told she's not allowed to work because she's on leave.
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    I later explained that it was a tasked assigned to her earlier and i only wanted her to finish it.
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    She was also paid extra for the upcoming evaluation and visit prep, but her outputs had errors.
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    When I asked her to correct them, she dismissed it and again cited her leave.
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    Later, I learned she told her program head I was "forcing" her to work.
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    Two women typing on laptops next to each other
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    It escalated to admin, and I felt like they believed her side more than mine.
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    That was my breaking point. I couldn't continue working with her.
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    I look for other job, applied, got accepted and recently, I resigned.
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    Before leaving, I told her to her face that she was the reason I resigned.
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    She looked upset, almost crying, but I honestly felt relieved finally saying it.
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    Later, she insisted she never said I forced her, just that she asked about her workload.
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    But considering how far things escalated, I still don't fully believe that.
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    So, AITA for telling her directly she was the reason I left? Or should I have just kept quiet and let people assume it was all about marriage and stability?
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    TL;DR: I helped a friend get hired, defended her against rumors, but she neglected her tasks and later made it look like I was forcing her to work.
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    Before resigning, I told her she was the reason I left. AITA for being that honest?

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