Mother of the bride asks bride to pick her up from the airport on her wedding day: 'This is a major inconvenience not a minor one'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Aug 29, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Some people think the world revolves around them. They don't stop and think that they might not be the center of the universe. They just live their lives thinking that all doors are open for them and they will get whatever they want just because they want it. Usually, the universe humbles these people after a while. They will get a metaphorical slap in the face at some point or another. But sometimes they coast along unscathed because all the people around them are too scared to say anything. It's our responsibility as other people in the world to say something. 

It's tough when these types of folks are in your family. You might go your whole life trying to get them to be better, but it doesn't stick. So then you distance yourself from them, but there's a twinge of regret about that, since they're your family. Then a big event like a wedding or a funeral comes along, and there you are, forced to deal with them and their narcissism. That's what happened to one bride in advance of her big day. 

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    The mother of the bride looks back at the aisle at a church.
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  • While she thought the day would be all about her, her mom had other plans in mind. She was only thinking of her own needs and had a big ask of her daughter/bride-to-be. So his daughter reached out to the internet to see what they thought about her predicament.

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    My mom asked me to pick her up at the airport on my wedding day.

    My mom asked me on the phone today if we could pick her up at the airport when she flies in on my wedding day. I was already a little annoyed by this request, but she also had the nerve to get pouty when we told her no. My mom
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    tried to point out that it could cost her $30 to arrange a ride to the hotel, and I was thinking....so what? My fiancé and I are PAYING for the hotel that she is staying at. I know for a fact that my mother is not in such a financial bind that she cannot take an Uber or taxi. No one else in anyone's family has made this kind of request. I know it seems minor, but I really can't believe she would have the gall to ask something like this.
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    Commenters agreed that this was a ridiculous ask.

    Same_Independent... . 4d ago Omg how ridiculous! She's also cutting it a bit fine arriving the day of isn't she? I feel you, my mum was also a bit of a nightmare before my wedding. She was very uncooperative, like it was such a chore for her to be involved in any way.
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    doubleOh 4d ago • It's not minor though. It's about control. She's trying to keep you convinced that she will always be bigger and more important than whatever is going on in your life, even on the biggest day of your life to this point. Good. on you for putting your foot down.
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    catjuggler 4d ago Flying in ON your wedding day is a bold move to begin with- needlessly risky!
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    Ikeamademedoit 4d ago • Its not about the $30 or the free ride, its about her wanting to make your day difficult for you and she get to enjoy the hassle it creates. Its not minor, Im sure you have lots of similar stories like this about her
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    lapsteelguitar • 4d ago Your mom is (supposed to be) a big girl. Let her deal with it. You go & get married. Do your thing. Be careful and look out for more of your mom's tomfoolery. Wanting you to delay the wedding so she can get ready, other crop like that. Be prepared to tell her off.
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    TexasLiz1 4d ago "Yeah, ma. I might be a little busy that day so I am going to have to say no to that one."
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    spargel_gesicht 4d ago Um. There have been other signs throughout your life that she's like this, yes? This can't be a complete shock. But I recommend you tell her that Ubers come to the airport and/or use the taxi stand. HI, maybe the hotel has a shuttle. Just don't let yourself
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    be drawn into a never ending discussion about it. And maybe assign a friend on your wedding day to be in charge of your phone until after the ceremony...
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    Jerseygirl2468 · 4d ago • Like you have nothing better to do! Wow. And she's coming in on the day of the wedding, not before? I think I'd say "Oh no, are you destitute? I suppose I could send you $30 for the taxi..."
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    Salt Course1 · 4d ago This is a major inconvenience not a minor one. Why is your mother showing up the day of your wedding?
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    Patient_Gas_5245 .4d ago Hugs, this isn't about money. It's about dominance and control. Do not pick her up. She is an adult and can get to both venues without you.
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    SnooWords4839 .4d ago ? She is crazy even to ask you. Is there any other family that may be able to pick her up?
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    lujza_blaha 4d ago . Would she be willing to go as far as to decline the invitation because she won't spend as much as $30(!!!!!) on a cab? The answer from you should stay no, regardless.
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    yarn_slinger • 4d ago My MIL wanted us to pick her up 45 minutes away (1.5 hour round trip) for MY mother's funeral. She even asked my sister (hosting) after we'd said she would have to figure something out. She had to take a cab.
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    GlitteringBeat213 · 4d ago . The ride is one thing, but how is she relying on the current disaster we call the airline industry to get her to her daughter's wedding ON THE DAY?????
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    Prosperouscreature 4d ago Oh man.. reminded me of my MIL asking me to do her makeup on my wedding day. Noped out of there.
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    Two-Theories • 4d ago . She's selfish and doesn't think of your needs at all, and when forced to, she doesn't give them weight or priority, and so losing $30 of her money when you could do it at no cost to her causes pouting.
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    So make sure someone checks what she's wearing before leaving the hotel for the venue and prep your vendors/staff that she has no authority to make changes and/or to make a speech
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    CuriousNematode 4d ago . Every family has "one of those" people, my SIL tried to convince my husband it was his responsibility and not hers to drive their (old and with mobility issues) aunt from the hotel to our wedding venue since she (the aunt) was our guest and not hers. She had a 4-seat car and was staying in an Airbnb paid by us 10min away from the aunt's hotel...
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    Glad you put your foot down. Your only responsibility on that day is to show up and be happy!
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    Accomplished-Ruin... • 3d ago My mother insisted that I pick her up, a 1-1/2 hour ride each way, to attend my husband's funeral, ON THE DAY OF HIS FUNERAL. There were any number of people including relatives who volunteered to pick her up but she refused. She did not attend my husband's funeral.
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    cassietoots • 3d ago My mom tried to hand off the things to me to decorate our car that was parked down the street on my wedding day. She also didn't want me to put my dress on until she got there, she only cared about the pictures of her zipping my dress up, not sharing a moment with me. Guess who was late?!? I hope you won the in-law lottery like I did.
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    utopiaplanetian • 3d ago My mother did somewhat the same thing. Asked me to go over and 'bring her groceries up from the car' the day we brought our firstborn home from the hospital.
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    It's a power move. She is trying to 'prove' that she is still the most important. Stop now. Just say no. If she doesn't come to the wedding, so be it. Let her explain to people after, and see how much sympathy she gets. My mom floundered and literally flailed when we stopped giving in to her. After about three months of this, she came around.
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