'She called me a bad MOH': Maid-of-honor cancels the bachelorette party after the bride insults the once-in-a-lifetime trip she planned, then the bride has a real meltdown

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  • AIO for canceling my friend's bachelorette trip after she called me a bad maid of honor?
  • My best friend (28F) is getting married. I (28F) am her maid of honor. I spent weeks planning a bachelorette weekend, booking an Airbnb, organizing activities, and coordinating with 9 other girls.
  • Last week, she had a meltdown in the group chat, saying I wasn't doing enough, that the Airbnb wasn't "aesthetic enough," and that she expected me to pay for more of it since I'm the MOH. She even called me "lazy" in front of everyone.
  • I was so hurt I just canceled the Airbnb reservation and told everyone I wasn't going anymore. Now she's furious, saying I ruined her once-in-a-lifetime trip and that I "overreacted" to normal bride stress.
  • I feel guilty because it's her big moment, but also... I don't think I deserved to be treated that way? Did I go too far?
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  • NoNumbersInMyID ⚫ Walk away, and fast. I'm a husband. My wife is wonderful. More than wonderful. Our wedding was stressful at times (married at her family home, pound of flesh extracted)
  • Things can be tough, and it can be stressful, but, it's predominantly an event to celebrate love and bonds. If your "friend" treats you this way, find a better friend. This is like when a drink person admits
  • something dark and then says "oh I was just drink". It's them, unabashedly transparent. It's good you saw this now, I suppose. Don't waste your life with people, is my takeaway.
  • Ambitious_M. As a man, I'll admit I've never been in this particular loop, but I have young daughters and should probably become more aware of I'm going to support them when it's their turn. Some of this just doesn't make sense though.
  • When did MOH duties expand beyond assisting in wedding planning, throwing a bachelorette party, and providing logistics and support to the bride on the day of the wedding?
  • When did bachelorette party become bachelorette trip? When did the MOH have to start paying for all this nonsense? The MOH is doing the bride a favor by taking some of the work and stress off the bride's shoulders. The
  • MOH, and to a smaller degree based on their efforts, the bridesmaids, should receive a small gift in recognition of their sacrifice to be a part of the bridal party and support the bride, right?
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  • Based on my probably out of touch understanding, NOR. Regardless if it's become the social norm, insulting the person you're relying on to financially and logistically support you is just dumb. That's not a friend. That's a leech.
  • GellyG42. NTA This went way beyond normal bride stress. These were unrealistic and ridiculous expectations put on you with zero regard for the effort and expense you put in.
  • Being a MOH does not mean allowing someone to treat you like sh just because they're the bride... millions of people get married every year without treating their friends this badly, most without even having a bachelorette, they aren't
  • really a thing where I'm from so I find the batchelor/bachelorette stories all kinda gross and tacky tbh but I digress She showed you exactly what kind of friend she is, I'd seriously reconsider this friendship and wish good luck to the other bridesmaids and her husband!

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