Bride-to-be uninvites sister-in-law from wedding because she attended her best friend's nuptials without her husband 2 years previously: 'She said the wedding would be ruined if my wife came'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Sep 7, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Despite their supposed purpose as a day to celebrate the love of two people, weddings can be known to bring out the worst in people. There is just something about spending a heck of a lot of money on a day that is all about you (and your partner) that makes some go a little crazy. Add any family or friendship difficulties into the mix, too, and the big day gets even more complicated. There is a lot that can go wrong.

It is never pleasant to feel like you are caught up in the middle of wedding drama without having a say in the matter, especially if you happen to be close to the bride or groom. However, that is exactly what makes somebody more likely to get swept up in the madness and petty fights. If you can get out of such a situation without majorly upsetting or offending anyone, you have achieved something more major than you may realize.

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  • One man worried about this after his sister informed him that she did not want his wife to join him at her wedding, where he was the man of honor. He had a close relationship with his sibling, and she wanted her sister-in-law to learn a lesson after she had attended her best friend's wedding without him two years ago, due to one of his exes being a part of the bridal party.

    As the couple had discussed the previous wedding and mutually agreed that he wouldn't attend, he felt it was unfair to his wife for her to be excluded with no say in the matter. That said, he still really wanted to be there when his sister was married. He looked for an outside opinion.

  • Am I wrong for attending my sister’s wedding even though my wife wasn’t invited?

    I (30M) have been married to my wife (29F) for 3 years, together for 10. We've had a great relationship overall. A couple years ago, my wife's best friend was getting married and my wife was the MOH. The issue was that one of the bridesmaids was my college ex. Our breakup had been messy, and the bridesmaid didn't want me at the wedding. When I found out I wasn't invited to the wedding because of that, I was really hurt.
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  • My wife did ask me if she could still go since it was her best friend's wedding, and I said yes because it was her best friend. It was a destination wedding over a weekend. I felt pretty down while she was gone, and when she came back she saw I was still feeling down and apologized to me. I told her it was ok. A few months later, even the bride apologized to me, and I said it was fine.
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  • It's been 2 years since, and my sister is getting married in a few months. She's my ride or di we're really close and she asked me to be her man of honor. She also wants me to walk her down the aisle and do the father daughter dance with her since our dad passed away. So I've got a lot of important responsibilities.
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  • But my sister told me she doesn't want my wife at her wedding. She said the wedding would be ruined if my wife came. I was really surprised and sort of shocked when she told me that. My wife and my sister are actually close, but when my wife talked to her, my sister said she still likes her but this is a lesson my wife has to learn for attending that wedding I wasn't invited to two years ago.
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  • My wife is really sad and I don't feel great about it. But this is my sister's big day, and I want to be there for her 100%. What should I do? I really want to attend the wedding.
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  • People were not impressed with the attitude of him or his sister.

    Elexiz Sooo... your sister is punishing your wife for a wedding that she had no control over? Kinda petty and childish, not about ride or di. Just gonna lead to a not so friendly future between your wife and sister... as long as your sister is ready for that, because the only lesson to be learned here is your sister seeing what happens when you exclude family... Yeah I
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  • think you should have been included at your wife besties wedding and your ex should have sucked it up for one day! But still, even if it hurts, very different than being excluded from a sister in laws wedding.
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  • You and your wife have not done anything wrong, somehow you are the ones being punished for other peoples choices. So maybe have a talk with your sister, this will not lead to the revelation she thinks your wife will have...
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  • Dramatic Wealth8638 Who the f I would let their sister do this to their wife? Tell your sister her revenge plan is petty AF. Your wife deserves better than you if you attend the wedding.
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  • liberalthinker If you participate in this wedding after your sister told you that reason for not inviting your wife, your relationship with your wife will be permanently damaged. And her relationship with your sister will be over. Tell your sister that if she does not apologize for interfering in your marriage (to your wife as well as you) that you will not be attending either.
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  • Azlazee1 So your sister is punishing you and your wife. What a sad way to run a wedding especially from someone you feel is so close. I would talk to your sister and make her understand that the prior wedding was discussed between you and your wife and you agreed with her attending. You do not agree that it is her place to now to eliminate your wife from the wedding. See what she says. Maybe sanity will rule and she'll change her mind. Good luck.
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  • Dry-Leopard-6995 It is incredulous that your sister would elevate you to this level and then LEAVE OUT your spouse. It is cruel. YTA
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  • kts 1207 It seems while you were "down" about not going to the wedding, you were running your mouth to your "ride or di ". There's no way your sister would be this petty about your wife, if someone (you) hadn't given her an earful. You need to shut your sister down and up, and stop discussing your marriage with your sister. And, refuse to go, if your wife isn't included.
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  • Luludelacaze1 It's really not your sister's place to teach your wife a lesson. It's also extremely shortsighted as she will be your wife's SIL until the day you di . Holidays, births, funerals, birthdays? Your sister is a j and you need to have a conversation with her about it.
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  • Brooklynlrish73 Your sister is the j. Your wife is an adult who made a choice that you supported even though it hurt your feelings. (To be clear, your wife's BF is also a j for putting you both in that position.) it's not for your sister to punish your wife for something that happened two years ago.
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  • I'm very close to my brother. I was his best man; he was mine. We do not interfere in each other's marriages, which is what your sister is doing. It's not too late for your sister to go the right thing. You should tell her you want your wife invited. You understand she's trying to stick up for you but you're all grown and it's water under the bridge in your marriage. If she doesn't invite your wife, she's being a j . This isn't a friend; this is your sister and your wife's sister in law.
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  • Informal-Plantain-95 and you think it's reasonable for your sister to teach your wife a lesson over something that you TOLD your wife to do and repeatedly told her you were cool with. this has to be rage bait.
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  • magpieaussie Your sister obviously doesn't want a relationship with your wife in the future. This is a sure way to ruin the relationship between them. It may also affect your marriage. Your sister needs to grow up. She doesn't appear mature enough to be getting married.
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  • Finicky-phatgurl You're letting your sister "teach your wife a lesson" and don't see how this could go south for you?
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  • Upbeat Vanilla_7285 This isn't a lesson you asked for and your sister shouldn't be doing this to spite her. This is between you and her. So yeah, YTA. If you're going to do this you may as well end your marriage.
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  • No-Daikon3645 Your sister needs to grow up. She doesn't need to get involved in your marriage. Unless, of course, you haven't actually forgiven your wife?
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  • Single-Criticism2541 Grow a spine. Yes, absolutely the j
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  • Jazzlike-Bird-3192 YTJ for not standing up to your sister. It isn't her place to make your wife "pay" for you having your feelings hurt. I wonder how hurt you're going to be when you come back to find your wife gone. It's your marriage and your sister is interfering. She will interfere you right out of it if you don't start acting like a proper husband.
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