Husband's new running buddy sparks suspicion from wife after he hesitates to admit he got post-workout smoothies with her, she starts to question their relationship: 'This whole situation makes me feel uncomfortable'

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    My husband started taking evening runs with a woman he met at our kid's daycare. I think this crosses boundaries.

    Couple running next to each other
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    My (28F) husband (30M) and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4. I've been hurt by
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    cheating in past relationships, so I'm probably more sensitive to situations that feel questionable.
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    My husband decided to get serious about fitness this year and started running every evening around our
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    neighborhood. He's really dedicated to it - goes out every single day around 7pm after dinner. I prefer morning yoga classes, so this has become his routine.
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    Man running on a path in nature
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    Over the past few months, he's mentioned running into other people from the neighborhood and striking up conversations.
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    There's one woman in particular - recently divorced, maybe 5 years younger - who he started running with regularly. Apparently
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    they met when both were picking up kids from the same daycare and realized they live nearby and have similar running paces.
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    Last Tuesday he came home later than usual from his run and mentioned he'd stopped for smoothies with "a friend" at that
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    juice bar on Main Street. When I asked which friend, he seemed to hesitate before admitting it was the divorced mom from his running group.
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    Barista man making a coffee at a cafe
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    He insisted it was totally innocent - just two parents grabbing post- workout drinks and talking about
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    training for the upcoming 5K. He swore nothing weird happened and that I know he's not like that.
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    Our marriage has been really good overall, even when we've had stressful periods with work and parenting a toddler.
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    My husband has never given me real reasons not to trust him in 6 years...but this whole situation makes me uncomfortable. A
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    recently divorced woman, daily evening runs together, stopping for drinks afterwards, the hesitation when I asked about it.
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    What does everyone think? Am I being paranoid or should I be concerned about these boundaries?
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    Couple running next to each other in nature
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    Present-Duck4273 NOR mainly because he didn't share the information freely and seemed to hide it/hesitate. Could it be innocent? Sure, but he has to know it is walking a line if he isn't
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    saying I went to get a smoothie with this woman vs. being purposely vague saying it was with a friend. Honestly it's probably not something right
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    now, but it does sound like it's on the edge- whether he realizes spending so much time with another woman is bordering. inappropriate, if there is flirting
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    going on or if he realizes it is bordering on dates/escalating if they are going out after it sounds like on some level he knows it would be upsetting for you to know all.
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    mathman_2000 Schedule a play date with all parents and the kids. This is a normal thing to do and gives you a chance to also connect with someone who could be a new friend.
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    Edit: If she's truly just a friend then your husband should be excited about everyone getting together. If your husband deflects and gives a bunch of reasons why it's not a good idea then you'll have more to talk about.
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    xDanielle- This is literally exactly how the affair with my mum and stepdad started. He was married, she was recently divorced. They were neighbours with sons on the same footie team and began
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    walking together in the mornings "as friends". I'm not saying don't trust it, I'm just saying that even things that originally started out innocently can very easily wind up developing into much more.
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    basswitch69 What would have bothered me is that he didn't give you a heads up beforehand. "Hey babe I'm going to grab a smoothie after my run with the neighbor. Want me to bring you one?" Instead he told you after the fact. Doesn't mean he's cheating, but if he had texted you before I don't think you'd be having these feelings.

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