Man expects fiancée to contribute money for half of her new engagement ring, after losing original ring while playing with their dog in the park, before going to get it resized: 'Her friends keep asking when she’s getting another ring'

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Emma Saven
Sep 11, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Is this man living on another planet, expecting his fiancée to contribute towards her new engagement ring, after waiting too long to get it resized and eventually losing it in the park? I think anyone would be distracted by playing catch with their perfect pup on a crisp winter's day, but I can almost guarantee that the feeling of looking at your hand, only to be met with the visual of an empty ring finger that is normally occupied, would make anyone's heart drop to their stomach! 

So after hours of this couple searching for his fiancee's engagement ring turned unsuccessful, she is left feeling filled to the rim with guilt, and goes on to discuss the repurchasing of new ring, because she simply cannot walk around without some symbol of their love - the only part missing from the discussion is her contribution to the new ring, after all, she was the one who lost it, so it wouldn't really fair to put all the financial pressure on her man after he already invested in getting her a beautiful promise ring, now, would it? 

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  • Her friends continue to add fuel to the fire, with questions about how and when he will be getting her a new ring…some could even argue they're going to share finances soon anyway…but that's not the point. Sure, maybe he should have ensured he had the right ring size before engaging. Still, it was her responsibility to go get the ring resized, and after one year of avoiding doing so, something was bound to go wrong…and so it did, just in the form of the combination of endless yards of grass and below-average eyesight. 

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    Couple playing with their dog in the woods during winter
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    AITA for wanting my partner to help pay for her engagement ring?

    I proposed to my partner about a year ago. I bought her a ring I thought fit her style and taste perfectly, and she was thrilled
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    with it. The proposal itself was in Lauterbrunnen, Switzerland (highly recommended if you've never been), and the whole thing was really special.
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    There was just one small issue: the ring was a bit loose. Since | had bought it abroad, I couldn't bring it back to the same jeweller
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    for resizing. We agreed we'd take it to a local jeweller, but almost a year went by and she never actually went to get it adjusted.
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    Fast forward to a few weeks ago: while playing with our dog in the woods, the ring slipped right off her finger and disappeared. We
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    spent days searching with metal detectors and every tool we could think of, but it was gone. Naturally, I want to get her a new
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    ring. She misses it, and I don't want her to go without something that holds that kind of meaning. But here's the problem: she seems to expect me to cover
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    the entire cost again. From my perspective, I was hoping she'd at least offer to contribute this time. On top of that, her friends keep
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    asking when she's "getting another ring," which adds more pressure and paints me like this selfish a-he.
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    So AITA for expecting her to share in the expense? I know part of this is on me for not nailing the size in the first place, but I
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    couldn't exactly be obvious since she already suspected a proposal. Plus, buying abroad complicated things with sizing differences.
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    T_G_A_H NTA. Who keeps wearing an expensive ring that is too loose? She should have gotten it resized as soon as she got home. This is on her. She should at least pay for half, since you and she are supposedly about to mingle your finances and be a team when it comes to expenses.
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    LongjumpingSnow6986 If the two of you can't sort this out together that's not a great sign for the marriage. Ultimately any money spent is going to be shared marital assets. Time to start thinking of stuff like this as a shared. problem to solve.
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    DidAnyoneFeedTheDog ESH. Any jewler can resize a ring. She should have had it sized, and you should have insured it. Now you should both share in the replacement cost.
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    tawny-she-wolf ΝΤΑ If I lost my ring, I would feel so guilty and mortified I would definitely offer to split the cost (if not pay for the whole thing).
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    She had a year to get it adjusted or even buy a 3$ ring adjuster off amazon as a temporary solution (which incidentally is what I have done).
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    monkerry Save the heartache buy the ring, deduct the cost from the wedding budget.
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    LylyO Esh...why are you 2 getting married if you can't even sort out this little situation? It's been over a year apparently and none of you manage to secure the ring size. Now it is lost, and you are both petty about it. You both don't sound mature enough and ready for the committment that a marriage requires.
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    Nrysis ΝΤΑ The ring being lost is entirely due to her laziness and carelessness - she knew it was too large, and chose to wear it anyway, rather than getting it resized or wearing it on a chain or some other suitable alternative. Because she wore it anyway, she lost it.
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    chicagok8 When you do get a new ring, I hope you get it insured! Even if a ring fits perfectly, it can be lost. (Some people's fingers swell a bit in the summer and shrink a bit in the winter. If you're washing something or wearing lotion it can slip off, etc.)
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    keesouth NTA. I personally wouldn't even expect a replacement immediately. I'd probably buy something cheap as a place holder and maybe get a nicer ring way down the line as an anniversary gift or something.
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    Usual-Owl9395 NTA. Maybe she should pay for the whole thing, she lost it.
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    ThrowRA-gruntledfork NTA, but you need to be able to openly discuss finances with her if you want to have a successful marriage. Soon your assets will combine, so the "my money" vs "her money" thinking will need to change.
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