'I’m debating on giving him his ring back': 23-year old trailer park guy forces his 22-year-old fiancé to care for destructive labrador retriever puppy 24/7, she considers ending things for good

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Blake Seidel • Managing Editor & Brand Manager
Sep 14, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

Pawrenting a puppy is the closest thing to a full-time job that you can do without getting paid for it. They need constant care and attention. You need a mountain of Band-Aids for all the teeth marks you'll have from their teething phase. You'll have a few sleepless nights at the beginning of the crate-training phase. And, of course, you'll be cleaning up lots of bodily fluids until your puppy learns the joys of going to the bathroom outside. It's hard enough to do it as a pair of pawrents, and doing it alone is next to impawssible without losing your sanity.

What's even more frustrating is when you get a puppy as a couple, but only one of you acts as a pawrent. When one partner is absent or doesn't put any effort into raising the living, breathing, growing creature in your home, then it's only natural that the one bearing all the responsibility will grow to resent not only them, but even the puppy. Even though we all know it's not the puppy's fault, we're only human, and we have to let our frustration out somehow. 

It's a tale that's not new to anyone - one partner wants a puppy, the other isn't ready but agrees anyway, and then the one that wants it expects the other to do all the work. Add on top of that they live in a tiny trailer, that she owns, and is being destroyed by his dog. We understand her exhaustion, her aggravation, and her overall feeling of defeat. We would too. But just because it's not a new theme, doesn't mean it still isn't worth the read. There are a lot of juicy details below, so don't miss out on this story that will leave you pawsitively satisfied.

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    I’m (22F) starting to resent my fiancé (22M) over the dog he forced on me

    Dog chewing household items including JAN 'So he gets the dog...and you're the one doing all the work. Now imagine bringing a baby into this...'
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    Hi everyone. So I have debated posting about this for months but today is just my final straw and I don't know what to do.
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    My boyfriend and I moved into a 1995 single wide trailer (important for later) last December that my dad so graciously got for me. I love it. I've spent so much time making it into a home and it's my safe place. As soon as we moved in, my boyfriend started talking
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    about wanting a Labrador Retriever for hunting & etc. I did NOT think it was the right time for us to get a pet and wanted to wait... but after a while I figured he was going to get the dog anyway and came to terms with it.
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    Anyone who has/does own a lab knows how destructive and honestly how TERRIBLE they are as puppies. I knew this, and so did he. To be honest, I liked the idea of a dog. I already had a huge black Golden Doodle that I took in from someone in my
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    family because they didn't have time for him. He's literally my soulmate in dog form and he's perfect.. but I could tell he was lonely and missed the other dogs that my mom has. We moved 15 min away from my mom that I used to live 3 min
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    away from. So, it was easy for her to be able to look after him when I needed her to. & like I said, he's an ANGEL. So I came to terms with the puppy figuring that my dog would like a friend. To be fair, my dog loves my (now) fiancé's dog.
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    Now into the beef of this story: As a little itty bitty puppy, this dog was terrible from the start when left alone. I tried to kennel train him but he would keep me up all night. Even worse, when I would leave him in the kennel he would bark so much that he'd
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    Dog and mess in house
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    projectile v it out of the kennel and onto EVERYTHING in my house (which like I said, is very small so it ain't hard). The V it has literally stained my walls, throw pillows, converse shoes, etc. I've done everything to get rid of them and they just won't go. It also left an awful
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    smell behind that I still can't seem to get rid of. Not to mention the inevitable potty training phase. The worst part of this is that he works at a steel mill. Four 12 hour days on, four days off. It's swing shift, so one week he will work days, and the next he'll work nights. So basically that's four days that he doesn't deal with the dog.
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    At the end of July, he went off to school and was supposed to stay there for a few months (hunting & obedience training). We went off on a trip, andddd he proposed! I had no idea this was happening, and I actually told him no at first because that's how much of a surprise it
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    Trailer Park with FOR SALE sign
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    was. Of course I was excited, then we got home and all the wedding planning stress started. Not even three weeks of the puppy being at school.. and his trainer calls us to come get him because he's going on a hunger strike. We went and got him and fattened him back up, texted &
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    called the trainer... and got no response. So I guess the trainer filled his spot or just didn't want to deal with him. He was being okay.. as long as he was with one of us or my mom. I own a boutique and work pretty much everyday of the week. So one
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    Saturday, I was like it's just 4 hours.. surely all he'll destroy is a shoe or something. Lo and behold I check the camera I have set up and he is eating a hole through the wall. Literally watched him peel off the paint which was over wallpaper so it came off in strips. He then went on to eat thru the dry wall and insulation. So quite the mess as you could imagine!!!
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    That was what I thought would be the peak of the problem. Mind you he is steady eating all of my shoes and not touching his, which I'd been sweeping under the rug because whatever ― puppies are gonna chew and it's my fault for leaving them
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    where he can get to them. So jump forward to this morning... Halloween is my FAVORITE holiday. This being my first time in my own home I obviously went all out and spent a good chunk of change on decor to make it feel spooky because it
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    makes me happy. This morning, I come out of the bedroom and there are my four brand new throw pillows ripped to shreds all over the place. He sleeps in the bed with us because I gave up on the kennel training because of how much sleep I was losing. Apparently he'd snuck out at some point and just went ham.
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    I'm at my limit, y'all. I have begged this man for a fence, a kennel, back to training, SOMETHING. We finally got the kennel... which I bought and forced him to reimburse me for it. Made him build a roof on it so the dog couldn't escape out the
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    top, and have started to plead with him to lay some concrete or gravel because I KNOW this dog and he will dig out to escape. He still hasn't done anything with the concrete, claims it is "too much" but mind y'all the other day he goes and drops $700 on
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    some stupid hunting device thing that he's never gonna use. I'm just at a loss. I'm with this dog 24/7 because I have to bring him with me to work. He was able to stay in my mom's fence for a while... until he did $600 worth of damage to her yard. His family has done
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    nothing but keep the dog maybe once while mine deals with him constantly. So basically I am just resentful of everyone and everything but my mom and my golden doodle.
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    I've tried to bring this up and explain how I feel but he just gets defensive or annoyed. Or says what he thinks I want to hear and then never does what I asked him to regarding the dog. At this point, I'm debating on giving him his ring back and
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    telling him to kick rocks. But I do love him, and I love the dog.. but I just can't keep on like this because the longer this goes on the more I resent them. Unfortunately I can't kick him out this weekend because OF COURSE we have a freaking engagement party this Saturday (and it's Wednesday). I'm just so tired and I don't know what I should do.
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    • ynotfoster 15h ago This post is stressing me out, I can't imagine willingly going through it. You need to slow down. This guy doesn't sound like a good partner. Find someone who will work with you. He can see the stress and problems he is creating and just expects you to put up with it. He is also really irresponsible with money. You guys are not working as a team. Do not marry into this.
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    Miseryy 16h ago . Don't get engaged at 22
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    Personal-Macaroon899 · 16h ago . Kick him out. There's no need to wait for after the party.
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    Rich-Lychee-8589 · 15h ago So he gets the dog..and you're the one doing all the work. Now imagine bringing a baby into this...not only will you be doing all the work...you'll have an out of control dog to deal with as well.
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    Tell him that all dog related stuff is gonna be left to him..if dog is sick..then he can clean it up...dog has damaged something...then he can repair it. There's loads of stories like yours on reddits tales from the dog house...this sub wouldn't let me link it
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    herejusttoargue909 15h ago Your dad gave you your home, you work for your own, you gotta drag him to reimburse you What does he actually do?
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    Like, no where do you list anything HE does for his dog. Dog went to your moms, you bought the first kennel (and you had to force him to reimburse you) Has he replaced your throw pillows at least?
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    wurly_toast • 15h ago This guys ks. Kick him and the dog out. He is not doing anything to be a partner. Think about this really carefully: does this guy sound like a good person to raise children with?
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    Expensive Plant_9530 • 15h ago I would reconsider this whole relationship. Your fiance is incredibly irresponsible with the dog, and is disrespecting you in the process.
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    IMO, that dog needs much much more training, and if he's not getting it, he needs to be rehomed to a family who can take care of his needs, because his owner (your fiance) is not doing that.
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    KissKrakenn⚫ 15h ago He wanted a hunting dog not a pet. He got the accessory without doing any of the work leaving you with the "projectile vit" and hole in the wall. You're not a dog trainer you're a hostage. He needs to take his four days off to handle the dog's training and care exclusively. If he can't manage his own animal, he shouldn't have one.
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