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AITA for pulling away from my identical twin sister even though I know it has caused her to spiral?
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Parents pile on with guilt and dramatic speeches about how distance is cruel, which is a bold take on oxygen. The fix stays simple and not cinematic. A twin is not a treatment plan, proximity is not therapy, and love does not mean cohabiting a personality. Keep contact small and scheduled, one weekly check in, short calls, share counseling resources, and say no to shared housing, shared schedules, and surprise visits with matching mugs. If it rebuilds the old costume, it’s a no. Spirals are loud and temporary.
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Boundaries are quiet and durable. Let parents parent without outsourcing regulation to a teenager, let Katie learn coping that does not require a clone, and let Kacie keep her oxygen. Individuality isn’t betrayal. Distance isn’t cruel. It is the first normal step after a childhood that tried to run two people on one login.
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‘Our parents used her phone to call me and say I'm awful for pulling away ‘: 18-year-old Kacie moves out, leaving Twin Katie spiraling to escape a lifetime of twin sameness
Katie and Kacie's parents forced twin sameness for years, and to their surprise, suppressing a person's personality can have unexpected consequences like one kid moving out at 18 to breathe while the other melts down.
Matching names, matching classes, matching bed, matching friends, and matching hobbies turned life into a buy one get one identity where any boundary got labeled coercion and a two night hospital stay felt like a spa because it came with silence. Now Kacie lives out of state, goes to community college, works a job, and finally gets days that don't require being Katie's twin on loop, while Katie drops out, moves home, and begs to move in together to reboot the old setup.
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