Mom refuses to drive whiny 12-year-old daughter's friend Leah back home from NYC just because she's "bored" with birthday activities, the girl's mother trashes her to other moms in retaliation: ‘She just said it was boring’

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    AITA for not bringing my daughter's friend home and making her parents come get her?

    Teen girl stares with a bored expression at her phone
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    My daughter and I live about an hour outside NYC. Since she was a baby, I've taken her there most weekends. As she got older, she occasionally brought friends.
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    They always know the rules: bring a bag with things for the train, carry your own stuff, stick together, expect lots of walking, and have fun. Phones are fine,
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    but I encourage screen-free activities. I always speak to parents beforehand and emphasize the walking, we sometimes walk 45 minutes or more.
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    A group of young teen girls walking and laughing
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    For her 12th birthday last weekend, she wanted to go to the city with friends, visit favorite spots, have dinner, and maybe see a show. My mom helped pay
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    for tickets and joined us. My daughter invited three girls: two longtime friends who know the routine and a new friend, "Leah." I
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    called Leah's mom, explained the rules, warned about the walking, and suggested Leah bring something for the train since the
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    signal is bad. Leah's mom said she was excited. My daughter also explained expectations.
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    On the train, Leah brought only her phone, got bored when the signal cut out, refused to chat or play games with the others, and
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    complained. When we arrived, she immediately asked for a cab. My daughter reminded her we walk. As we browsed shops, Leah kept whining and asking for a
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    cab. I stayed patient, offered water and snack breaks, and even suggested the subway to be nice, but she refused when she learned what it was.
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    A hand holding a deck of UNO cards
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    A few hours in, we stopped for dinner at a place with options for everyone. Leah complained again and said she wanted to go home.
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    I pulled her aside to check if she was sick or upset; she just said it was boring. I told her we'd be there a few more hours for the show, but if she wanted to leave, she could call her mom.
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    Leah called, and her mom asked me to bring her back. Even if my mom or I left with Leah and took a train back after we dropped her off, we'd miss the show, and my
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    daughter wanted both of us there. I explained we wouldn't head back until after the show. Leah's mom didn't want to pay for
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    a train ticket or drive. She eventually sent Leah's dad, who picked her up before the show. Leah stayed crabby through dinner.
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    Afterward, Leah's mom trashed me to the other moms, but they backed me up, saying they wouldn't expect me to cut the trip short unless a child was sick or
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    hurt (which I would do). Now Leah's mom won't let her hang out with my daughter. I can't help wondering if I should've just SU ed it up and taken her home. AITA?
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    tyvm128 NTA. And not a bad thing Leah's mom isn't letting her hang out. She sounds like she would complain about any activity your daughter might bring her on
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    Mariko2334 NTA. you were celebrating your daughter and those parents should have been prepared with their daughter gone that this could have been a possibility. Not your job to miss your daughters celebration for a bratty kid
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    goddessofspite Why would you want your daughter to hang around with her. You've seen the type of person
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    she and her family are. I'd be telling your daughter to keep her distance from them cause they are the problem not you. NTA
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    Girls rolling her eyes
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    Perlinian_Willow NTA but I'm surprised anyone who went wants to spend more time with Leah.
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    Particular_Cycle9667 No, you are not the a h le you told everyone what to expect your daughter told her what to expect. She sounds entitled. Yes she is 12 years old. I get that she is a kid.
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    But her mother should have realized that you are not expected to drop anything unless her kid is actually unwell.
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    Good for you for standing your ground. And honestly, I don't think your kid needs to be around a kid like that who can't appreciate that
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    your daughter went out on a limb and invited her. Leah didn't have to come; she chose to and she chose to act the way she acted.

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