'I showed her dishes to choose from to accommodate me': Picky eater attends family dinner, leaves when in-laws don't cater to her specific tastes

Being a picky eater isn't always a choice, but how a person chooses to cope with it is.

Adults who are extremely selective about what they eat have a responsibility to make sure that their needs are catered for, and it is not uncommon for this to cause issues if they are not able to do this. From travelling abroad to enjoying restaurant meals, it can prove to be a setback in many different situations.

Sometimes, the most difficult challenge that a picky eater faces is feeling accepted by their family and friends. Not everybody is willing to accommodate the culinary needs of somebody who has a limited palate, even if they care about them. At its worst, it can be a topic that causes arguments and discord, especially when people are sensitive about it. Because of this, it has been known to disrupt family get-togethers and social events. Food is important.

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  • One woman took offence when her mother-in-law did not respect her preferences for a holiday dinner, and showed her displeasure by walking out. She had previously informed her in-laws of her limited eating habits, as well as directed them towards dishes they could include in the meal that she would eat. Her mother-in-law informed her that she would need to bring her own dish if she wanted to be accommodated.

    When she and her fiancé arrived at the house of their in-laws to celebrate the holiday, it soon became apparent that there was nothing on the table that she would eat. Feeling that she had communicated her needs as best as she could and that her desires were not respected, she made the choice to walk out without explanation. She shared her experience, and not everybody agreed with how she had conducted herself. 

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    Ginger @HandyGingerGal Catering to picky eaters as children, creates insufferable, entitled adults.
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    AITA for leaving my inlaws christmas dinner after I found out that they didn't make accommodations for me? I got invited to my fiance's family christmas celebratory dinner. It's my first christmas with them. I have always been picky about what I eat. Can't help it and it has to do with psychological factors, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes. Before accepting their invite I let FMIL know that I wouldn't be eating the traditional food at their celebration, and showed her a variety of dis
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    Ginger @HandyGingerGal.2d Replying to @HandyGingerGal On a side note, this guy should call off the wedding and get out while he still can. This woman will do nothing but make him miserable.
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    Here we go again @stateracetami Replying to @HandyGingerGal My son has a picky eater g/f. They've been together for 1 yr. I try to accommodate but sometimes she won't even touch the food that I know she will eat. But, she will make him take her to InNOut after not eating our food. It's ride. So I told him I won't be catering to her anymore
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    Nick Labonté @allegedwriter Replying to @Handy GingerGal I'm a picky eater but I would *never* expect someone to "accommodate" something that's a preference.
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    G. BARR @glennthegreat Replying to @Handy GingerGal Keep tater tots in your pocket like Napoleon Dynamite.
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    Lucy R. Fisher @richmondie Replying to @HandyGingerGal It's really not difficult to cook a side order of macaroni cheese or whatever she likes. And they refused to even try.
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    AMOLITION Common Sense Comm... @CommandoSense2 Replying to @HandyGingerGal This person puts the onus on the hostess who has graciously invited her for dinner and is already preparing a huge meal for a large gathering. We've had this exact situation at our family gatherings and the person who has the issue always volunteers to bring their own dish.
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    Peter Van Ness @Peter Van Ness33 Replying to @HandyGingerGal I do all the cooking for my family. I will ask if anyone who's coming to dinner has dietary restriction, and I'll find a way to accommodate--usually within the cuisine I'm preparing. But don't send me recipes. I'm not your personal chef. Just tell me what you can't or won't eat.
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    Mary Lou Tatton @MLTspecialties Replying to @Handy GingerGal Control freak testing the waters here. This is not about food, lol.
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    Justin Fegers @FegersRacing Replying to @Handy GingerGal I'm shocked by the number of adults that have a list of things they've never tried.
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    Lu for Alaska @luinalaska I have zero tolerance for kids who don't want to eat what is served. Don't eat then. Don't announce your preference. Be hungry. Quietly. Raising your kids to demand accommodations for their preferences at shared or hosted meals is unfair to the planet.
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    Max @minordissent The most important skill you must instill in your child is a capacity to cooperate effectively with other humans. If you fail at this, you fail as a parent.
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    chaos robot @deestiv Maybe it's an unpopular opinion, but if I'm hosting a group of people for a meal I want to make sure there is at least one thing that each person can eat and enjoy so I don't care if I have to modify certain things or make something extra be it for allergies, pickiness, etc.
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    Bones @FrailSkeleton I admit to being an extremely picky kid whose loving mommy made me a separate meals with dividers on the plate so stuff wouldn't touch& the only thing that cured me was going on a teenage date& seeing the shocked look on his face as I ordered my...usual...
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    HomeMaker Megs @mrsmeganeverly Ok, so I am a natural observer. When I have friends/family over, I usually remember things I observed them eating in the past and cook them out of hospitality. It's good. to accommodate others as a host. That being said, I'd have shut this assuming brat down immediately
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    momsaidicould @erinbetame I've cooked holiday dinners. Asking someone to make one more dish when they already have to handle the turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, green bean casserole, Mac and cheese, and pumpkin pie, that is a lot for one person. And then you want accommodations....
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    Daydreaming Holly @Annia_Lennox I am a picky eater and this is just entitlement. Also is it only my family where everyone brings a dish anyways? Normally the host does the main and maybe a side but paying for the whole thing?! Nope.
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