Parents get kicked out of son's apartment while visiting due to their entitled behavior, they cut contact after being forced to return home early: ‘I had been breaking my back to make them happy’

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    AITA for Kicking my Parents out of My Apartment and forcing them to figure out how to get home

    sorry this is a little all over the place, I don't really know how to tell the story the best way but here we go My parents have always been "their way or the highway." Over the years, I've learned to be complacent rather than fight back.
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    At the time, I was dating a guy, let's call him Jeff, who often said I was too nice and let too many things slide.
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    Before Thanksgiving, I told Jeff to let me handle things with my parents, hoping they'd like him.
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    Unfortunately, Jeff was indifferent to their approval. My family was traveling from Atlanta to Chicago, and I initially suggested ordering in for Thanksgiving since my apartment was tiny.
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    I had a good job at the time and originally could afford to splurge on the family, but a week before Thanksgiving, I lost it.
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    My parents knew but that didn't curb their demands like having me run around before and during their visit grabbing supplies for a dinner that we agreed originally was going to be catered to by the end of the week my mom was cooking and complaining about how. impossible it was to make a meal in my kitchen.
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    I also promised my little brother that I'd pay for A trip to Chicago if he ever wanted to come.
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    My mom pushed me right after i lost my job to pay for his flight for thanksgiving, even though I was unemployed.
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    I spent $300 on his ticket, only for him to miss his flight due to his own mistake, effectively wasting my money.
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    My mom then had to buy him another ticket, he never reimbursed me, and my mom still expected me to pick him up at 5 AM.
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    I refused and she made my dad do it. My little brother is 26 and Ubers exist so i was like "why is this not his own responsibility?" Throughout the week, my mom kept making demands, and my boyfriend, Jeff, was patient but frustrated.
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    My parents even tried to rearrange my apartment and demanded I move my musical equipment for a microwave they didn't need.
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    This led to arguments, and my dad even yelled at me in front of Jeff. On the last day, I spent time with my mom, and we were actually enjoying watching TV together.
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    But out of nowhere, she started the argument about not picking them up from the airport again, calling me ungrateful and a terrible son.
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    When I tried to argue back and tell them that I had literally been breaking my back to make them happy, my dad just called me emotional and told me that I needed to respect them and do what they say.
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    In the end, I lost my patience and kicked them out into the cold and told him they had to figure out how they were gonna get back home to Atlanta.
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    Their flight was late that day so I don't know how they did it but they got back and we haven't talked ever since.
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    OP QuickScore9933 Update: Thanks for the responses (mostly positive) which I appreciated. Here's answers to a few of your questions: 1. I have cut off contact with my parents a few times and only came back with an apology from so this isn't a new thing just the most recent and strongest reason. And they show no desire to apologize. 2. I did get in contact in August to see if they were ready to talk, they said they did nothing wrong because they "didn't physically hurt me, so no harm done". And t
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    Ironyismylife28 So, you could afford to splurge, but you also lost your job and couldn't pay for your brother's ticket. Which is it?
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    OP QuickScore9933 At the time before i lost my job I could, but then i lost it so i had to start being conservative......
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    Thin-Invite-666 I'm sorry you are going through this. It is always hard to break the habits that our parents ingrained in us as kids and under their roof. Your BF is right, it's time to lead your own life and conduct yourself as you want to, not how your parents want you to. Good for you for finally standing up for yourself. NTA.
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    Medusa_7898 NTA. They disrespected you in your own home. Don't let that happen.
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    NTA. grayblue_grrl It's good that you stood up and took control of your life and put them out. I believe it was VERY fortunate that Jeff "was indifferent to their approval." When a grown adult takes his toxic parents approval as a necessary or good thing for a relationship to survive, the relationship is doomed. I hope you have seen or will see a therapist to help you understand boundaries, how to set them, how to enforce them and how to react when people refuse to be respectful. Good luck.
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    mcmurrml You should have stood up to them years ago. Don't ever let them treat you like that. You are just as much of an adult as they are. Don't give me that respect me crop. That's so they can do or say whatever they want. Their days of manipulating you are over.
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    seagull321 You should have done this years ago. Use your money for therapy; you're enmeshed with your parents. Never let them in your home again. Better if you never let them near you. If you must see them, it must be in public so you can easily walk away.
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    BigWeinerDemeanor NTA good for you. Well done for asserting boundaries.
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    NTA bmyst70 Your boyfriend is right. Your parents have been totally demanding and not given an inch. The first time you stood up to them, they went silent. That tells you everything you need to know. Honestly, I would just permanently go NC with them. Block them and remove them from your life.

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