Woman kicks brother-in-law out of home after he goes out of his way to annoy her as a guest: '[He made] that horrible screeching sound while staring right at me'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 10, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Hosting family can be tricky even when everyone is on their best behavior. My own mother drilled into me the importance of being a welcoming, easygoing, and flexible host. However, when guests start crossing boundaries in your space, things can go downhill fast. If you also add in a bit of entitlement, insensitive jokes, and a total disregard for your comfort, and what was supposed to be a weekend of wholesome family bonding suddenly turns into a stress test of your patience.

One woman recently learned this lesson the hard way when her sister and new brother-in-law decided to extend their one-night visit into a weekend stay. From showing up hours late to bringing cereal to her gluten-free home, the couple didn't exactly prove themselves to be ideal houseguests. But the straw that broke the camel's back came when her brother-in-law deliberately dragged a fork across his plate to get a reaction out of his host after being told about her sensory sensitivities. When she warned him that he'd be kicked out if he ever did it again, the couple packed up early in a huff, leaving our narrator wondering if she overreacted.

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    AITA for threatening to kick my brother in law out of my home for purposefully irritating me?

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    So this happened yesterday. My (F29) sister (F32), lets call her Alice, and her new husband (M32), lets call him Sam, came to stay with me for the weekend.
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    Initially I'd only invited them for Friday night game night, but they sort of invited themselves to stay the weekend. It's a little annoying,
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    but they're in the middle of moving to my area from across the country so I can be a little flexible for them.
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    I barely know Sam, only meeting him a handful of times, and he really wants to be like a big brother to me. I live alone and I'm
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    very introverted and nerodivergent, though not officially diagnosed. From the start they both were just a little
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    overly entitled and disrespectful, first claiming they'd arrive at a certain time, then pushing that
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    time back a couple hours, then not arriving till two hours after that. They were 4 hours late from the original plan.
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  • Every step of the way, this couple is proving that they are not very thoughtful guests.

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    There was more as well, but basically I was getting irritated, but was still being a gracious host. Sam started to try to lowkey insult me as a form of joking
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    around, calling me a little child and that no adult listens to the whining of a little child like me, and then calling me boastful
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    when I tried defending myself, which made me feel my patience getting thin with him specifically.
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    I have a sensory issue with forks and knives scraping against bowls and plates. Like, it literally is painful for me to the point I have to cover me ears and my
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    whole body flinches. While we were eating Alice accidentally scraped her knife on the plate, and apologized to me. It wasn't too bad, then when she explained
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    to Sam why she apologized he took his fork and purposefully ground it against his plate to make that horrible screeching
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    sound while staring right at me with a grin on his face. I instantly told him if he ever did that again in my home he would be kicked out.
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  • Maybe he's trying to come off as a playful older brother type, but he's just not. They don't have the biological relation or history.

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    They changed their plans right away and left an hour later, very upset at me for saying that to him.
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    TL;DR BIL purposefully made a horrible noise that hurts me and I warned him I'd kick him out of he did it again. AITA for warning that I'd kick him out if he did that again?
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    Edit: Just wanted to give a little aftermath. My sister insisted over and over again that I was being dramatic for taking it that far, and when I told her what Sam did was
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    disrespectful, she insisted it wasn't and that he was just playfully teasing to try to get a rise out of me, like siblings are supposed to
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    Second edit: I just remembered another incident. I am celiac and my home is fully gluten free. I reminded my sister long before their visit and asked them not to bring any gluten to my home.
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    They brought a wheat based cereal, knowingly, into my home, though they brought a bowl and disposable cutlery to minimize the chance of cross contamination. Im still upset about this
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