'I haven’t heard a thank you': 23-year-old woman pays $360 to save older sister’s storage unit from auction, after learning it holds dining set their grandparents promised to her, restricting older sister's access until she refunds her, sparking tension

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    Two women talking outside a storage unit
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    AITA For buying my sisters storage unit

    So my older sister (35F) told me that a while back I could have my grandparents old dinning set, and I (23F) was planning to move it into my storage unit.
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    I had texted her the other day about how I need a good time to come get that stuff out and want to move it.
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    My sister had started the conversation with "oh I'm too busy this month, I can't meet up with you." I told her no big deal, that I would need a heads up of when to get the dinning set out of it and when to meet up.
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    My sister finally tells me that she has been 4 months behind on the payments and can't get access right now.
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    What makes it worse is that she said in 3 days they were going to auction it off and she didn't know what to do.
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    My sister's stuff that was sentimental for her was going to be gone and I felt bad.
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    She then brought up that she couldn't ask either of our parents cause they basically cut her off financially which is understandable.
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    Anyway, my sister was going on a rant about how no one can help her and decided to step in.
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    I had offered to pay off the storage unit but I would need it in my name.
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    The payment was $360, and I wasn't about to not hand over a bunch of money and not at least have some ownership of this storage unit.
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    Opened storage unit
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    She agreed and I also went ahead and paid for next month to be on the safe side.
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    I then sent her a message regarding what I need to happen. First I need my sister to pay me back all my money before she is allowed access to her unit, second she has to have cleaned out 10 days before the end of the next month.
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    I found these terms reasonable and told her them. I haven't heard a thank you from my sister and only that I was a shitty person to tell her that she can't have access till she pays me back.
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    Am I the asshole? Update/clarification My sister has a long history of lack of responsibility with her financial actions.
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    She splurges on shopping and recently got a fixer upper house which is rent own. She currently lives with my dad, rent free, and her new house is a hour away.
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    Her only major bills are; car, car insurance and phone. I love my sister but with all her recent actions and her getting mad that non of us have time or resources to help her fix up her new house, she has alienated us.
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    I'm putting myself through college at the moment and saving for a house with my boyfriend, I don't have that much money to help my older sister out with stuff like this.
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    This discussion was over a couple of days and she was ok with my terms of the deal before she signed over the storage unit.
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    Budget_Meaning1410 Without you, she'd be out a unit and all of the things in it would be gone. Once she's paid you back, you can talk about letting her use YOUR unit. NTA.
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    Clubhouse9 You're not willing to give your sister $360 and collect the dining set you're after? I think I would pay the $360, take the dining set, and let your sister keep her stuff and the unit with no expectation of payback.
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    Antique tea set
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    lilperform NTA. You saved her stuff from being auctioned and set fair conditions to protect your money. She should be grateful, not calling you names. You're not a bank, you're being responsible after bailing her out tho!!!!!
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    Dropstone Ted NTA. Your sister should be thankful you saved her sentimental stuff. Instead she's complaining that she sees your generosity as insufficient. People like that need to experience consequences for their behavior and you're giving her a softer landing than she deserves. Stay the course.
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    moonhrafn NTA: It is totally reasonable for you to withhold access to the storage unit till she pays you back what you're owed. The fact that she is saucy about it is all the proof you need that she was planning to stiff you.
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    AmazonSeller2016 While your terms are indeed reasonable, YTA for not disclosing the terms before you took possession of her storage unit

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