Divorcee mother refuses to let ex husbands new fiancée babysit her daughter, fiancée dumps him and he accuses ex wife of sabotaging his relationship: 'He is telling everyone I broke them up'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 21, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Through the course of a marriage, divorce, and aftermath, it can be too easy to develop resentment and negative feelings towards your ex. You may feel the urge to blame them for everything going wrong, and who wouldn't? In the story below, the protagonist is a divorced woman who has a daughter with her ex-husband. He only has her every other weekend, and he's now newly engaged to his girlfriend. The girlfriend starts calling the ex-wife constantly, apparently under the guise of trying to build a relationship with the daughter. At first, the ex-wife doesn't pick up, because she has no idea who's calling her. Then, over time she realizes it's her ex's fiancée, and finds out she wants to babysit and spend time with her daughter. 


She refuses to let a stranger take her daughter out. This comes to a head when the fiancée breaks off the engagement with her boyfriend. The ex-husband comes after his ex, blaming her and her strictness regarding their daughter as the reason she left him.

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    I (27) have a 6 year old child with my ex (29m). We have been broken up since our child was 1. I have primary custody, my ex sees
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    our child two weekends a month. The reason for this is my ex decided he didn't want to give up his whole life to be a parent and
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    he thinks every other weekend is enough. I should also note he doesn't always take his weekends
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    and has let our child down in the past.
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    Three years ago he started dating someone else and they got engaged in February of this year.
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    Once they were engaged I started getting calls and texts from an unknown number and I found out it was his fiancée. He had told her
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    I would be open to her coming over and taking my child out for the day and he gave her my number so we could plan this. He
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    never mentioned it to me and it took entirely too long for me to figure out what was going on. Getting a bunch of texts from an
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    unknown number saying answer the damn phone, call me, I'd like to meet up and figure this out is not something I expected.
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    When I did answer a call from her she was set on taking my child out for the day and she told me my ex said it was okay. I told her
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    it was not okay and I didn't know her and I wasn't going to hand my child over to someone like
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    that. Then I suggested she make the most of the time my ex has.
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    This was not a popular answer with her and she had my ex using our co-parenting app to send request after request for me to let
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    his fiancée take our child out for the day. My ex told me in July that I was saying no too much and it was ruining his relationship.
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    Last month his fiancée ended their engagement and broke things off with him. She blamed me via text and said she was not
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    going to stay in a hostile environment where she's treated like stranger danger toward the child she's supposed to be the stepmother of. My ex blamed me
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    for this too. He accused me of sabotaging his relationship and chasing away potential stepmother's from our child's life.
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    I told him I did not give a damn about his relationships. What I cared about is having someone | don't know feeling entitled to
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    take my child from my home. Then I pointed out he was the reason she believed she could in the first place.
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    Instead of just moving on and accepting what happened he is telling everyone I broke them up.
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    Some of his buddies are quick to say something when they see me.
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    I think most people see it as because he's not a very involved father to begin with.
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    I did have a mom friend in a mom group I'm a part of tell me I kinda did sabotage his relationship because the woman he was with
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    was trying to know my kid and I didn't let her. She said I had no reason to say no like I did once | knew who was texting and calling
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    and what she wanted. This turned into a small fight because I asked her if she'd be okay with it and she told me she would. She said most single mom's with primary
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    or full custody would love for their kids to have people who want to take care of them. She said it was my ego that made me
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    break them up because I didn't want my child to have a stepmom.
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    I still think it's crazy to blame me and I think it's also crazy to say I should have agreed to this. But I'm willing to be big enough to ask if I'm wrong and accept if
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    people think I am wrong. So do you think I broke up his relationship? AITA for saying no to her taking my kid for the day on my parenting time? I am so curious.
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