Parents arrange to give daughter inheritance before they pass, she considers leaving her husband afterwards: 'I have been married for 10 years and over this marriage for 8'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Oct 30, 2025 9:00 PM EDT
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One of the biggest barriers to leaving a relationship is figuring out how to do it successfully.

As if the realization that it is no longer working is not difficult enough, planning an exit strategy just adds yet more stress and complication to the whole process. For those who have a long-established connection, it often can't be as simple as suddenly disappearing one day. A helping hand is needed for the sake of a clean break.

One of the most pressing issues when it comes to ending a serious relationship is making sure that everything is OK financially. Nobody is making it on their own without having the money to do so, and sometimes they have been in a position where it has been difficult to earn it. Financial freedom is also freedom in many other ways, especially when the issue at hand is leaving somebody behind. Care must be taken with it.

 

 

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  • The best situation a person can be in when they want to leave a relationship is having a significant amount of money saved for when they do. One way in which this can happen is receiving an inheritance from family members, which gives them the boost they need to move on smoothly.

    In this story, a woman's parents decided that they wanted to give her an inheritance, including money, businesses, and a vacation home, before they passed. She saw this as an opportunity to finally leave her marriage, which she felt had been a lost cause for many years. However, she wondered if she would be wrong to leave him once she received all of this, as she had tried to make the relationship work before. She wanted a second opinion.

  • AITA for leaving my husband after I get my inheritance?

    I have been married for 10 years and I have been over this marriage for 8. Ideally I would love to stay with my husband and enjoy our lives and grow old together but honestly the only reason I've stayed for the past 8 years is because of our kids and I really can't afford to leave.
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  • I work full time make almost as much as he does. We pretty much never have money but both contribute to everything. I take care of the kids 90% of the time. I am 100% responsible for all cooking ( I cook a homemade dinner EVERY NIGHT) and big
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  • breakfast every weekend. I get up with the kids get them ready, fix breakfast, make their lunches, feed animals, take kids to school, work all day then come home and clean, do laundry, cook, clean go to bed.
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  • We have zero to do with each other. Haven't been on a date in years, don't cuddle, don't hold hands, don't really even talk, rarely ride together or go anywhere together... like ever! He smokes cigarettes and pot and I can't stand it. He told me once we had kids he would quit smoking.. um nope.
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  • He is a great dad for the most part, and mows the grass and helps my dad on our property (which he enjoys). I've always known I would have a significant inheritance but we've put things in motion for that to happen before my parents pass. So basically I'll be getting enough money (much more and vacation home and small self run businesses) that I can afford to leave. He is
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  • very aware of all of this. I've begged him to be a partner and try to be a loving husband for years but nothing changes. Like I said I would Love nothing more than to live out our lives together traveling and enjoying life, but I'm NOT going to be his slave for ever and I'd prefer to be with a man who loves me or no one at all. So AITA?
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  • virtualchoirboy Talk to a lawyer before you do transfer anything. While an inheritance is specifically excluded from marital property, wealth transfers from living parent to child are not. What you've briefly described sounds like a situation where he will stand to gain from what you receive and I'm pretty sure you don't want that.
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  • MotherDepartment1111 As someone who is divorced, get a divorce before you get that money
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  • Weary_Cut4477 NTA, but, honey, get a divorce before you're given that money, otherwise he may be entitled to it.
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  • icecreampenis Girl it's not inheritance if your parents are still alive. You're about to hand him half of your parent's gift. Don't be stupid.
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  • Green Poet_5510 Tell your parents to hold off until you've divorced him!!! Anything they give you while you're married is considered a marital asset, meaning he gets half. This has been his plan ALL along. They give you the property, he takes half and SEE YA. Involve a lawyer ASAP and get out quick
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  • Cute You676 NTA, but get that divorce done first. That way he can't challenge for ANY part of your pre-inheritance. You deserve a life that you love! And you work and make as much as he does, so you can afford to get rid of the roommate.
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  • Newgeta lawyer quickly (tomorrow) before you get the gift or ask for it to be delayed
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