32-year-old husband kicks out aimless brother-in-law after all inheritance goes all to him, wife becomes furious with him: 'He cannot do anything himself and cannot be trusted with money'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Nov 7, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Marriage and money aren't just alliterative associations – they really do go hand in hand. When you marry someone, you don't just marry the individual, you really are marrying their whole family in a lot of ways. Loving someone always comes with sacrifices, but at what point is it too far? The husband in the story below really does try his best to accommodate the situation with his wife's family. Her father recently passed, and he left a will to his family. However, he only left it to his son and wife, not his daughter. The husband is already at his wit's end about this, not to mention his brother-in-law is lazy and irresponsible, adding insult to injury. 

The brother-in-law and his wife are so devasted by the loss that they move in with the narrator and his wife. But things go awry when the husband finds the living situation to be less than substantial. This reaction alienates him from his wife. Read the full story below for all the juicy details.  

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    Aitah for telling my wife to tell her mom to move out of our home after she decided to leave all inheritance to her brother?

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    Me 32 Wife 30 Brother/brother in law 27 MiL late 50s
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    My FIL recently passed and left a very sizable life insurance policy to his son and wife (MIL), my wife received nothing.
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    We understood this because her brother(27) is not the brightest and still lives at home, he never
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    goes out and only goes to work, and back home to play video games all day.
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    They both recently moved into our home as they were too distraught to continue living in the home my FiL passed in.
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    My FIL was truly the only adult in the home and was responsible for taking care of everything. He even
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    drove my MiL to and from work on a daily basis, a responsibility that has now been passed onto my wife.
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    I have since taken over the estate planning, such as paying bills, swapping over polices, etc. My
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    MiL doesn't speak English and doesn't drive, so as family it was my pleasure to take on this responsibility. After a month and
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    a half I finally settled all the bills/funeral planning/etc and all the heavy lifting a complete. I do not say it lightly, but without me,
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    the family would be lost on what to do. For example, they did not even know where he worked, and
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    were surprised to find out he even had a life insurance policy.
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    Both do not have any retirement plans or savings. I suggested a shared bank account for my wife and her mom to put the payout
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    into, where it will accrue interest but also to pay off bills every month(mil had no bank account before). It was at this point MiL
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    says she would rather not have her daughter on the account and wants to give her portion of the payout to her son and have him
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    Inheritance
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    set up with a savings account. She says this because since me and my wife have a home, that it would be better used on her brother. We do have a home, but
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    we are by no means rich, in fact, them moving in would help us out financially as there would be extra income from them paying rent.
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    I expressed to my wife that leaving everything to him would be incredibly irresponsible because then he will be left the family home and the payout, but
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    mainly because he cannot do anything for himself and can not be trusted with the money. I say this because of things I have
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    learned about him, he does not have a drivers license but drives a car to and from work, never helped with the estate, and
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    something I learned was that he has a large amount of cash in his checking account.
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    He has never had a girlfriend and since the known him has shown no signs of ever wanting to move out. The large bank balance
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    worried me because when I asked him about this, he told me he just had no idea what to do with it and has no concept of retirement
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    planning, since his parents took care of all the bills, and all he did was pay some of the mortgage, go to work, and then go home to play video games.
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    My wife was also there when her mom had cancer and took her to and from every single appointment, to the point of using all her vacation/sick days to
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    help during this time. Her brother is not a bad guy, in fact he is a great friend. But he just doesn't ever seem like he will grow up to be a responsible person.
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    I told my wife that after agreeing to take them in and have them live with us, that it would be a slap in the face to be left nothing, so I told her that her mother and
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    brother should move back to their home, and use the money from the payout to help them live with the absence of my FIL. She
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    was then furious with me and said all I care about is money, even though I feel that this is not so much about money, but that
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    there is a complete lack of respect with being shown nothing for all the help we have and will be giving.
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    So Reddit, AITAH?
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