27-year-old daughter demands dad pay her rent or move out after his “two-week stay” at her basement hit the five-month mark: ‘I feel like a landlord to someone who never signed anything’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Nov 8, 2025 5:00 PM EST

You can love your parents, appreciate everything they've done for you, want the best for them, and still say 'no' to some things they ask of you. Setting boundaries with anyone you love is a healthy part of any relationship, and no one should be scared to do it.

The daughter in the story below is facing this exact issue. She loves her dad and wants to help him, but their relationship has reached a point where a boundary must be set. Five months ago, her dad asked her to stay in her basement for two weeks during a difficult time for him, until he could get back on his feet. Since then, two weeks turned into a month, and a month into five, and before the daughter knew it, her dad became a permanent tenant in her basement.

Not only is he costing her a lot of money in bills and groceries, but he is also a terrible tenant who never cleans up after himself, always invites friends over, and takes in stray cats without asking. So eventually, the daughter was bound to break…

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  • After one too many difficult interactions with the dad, the daughter decided it's time for an ultimatum: Either Dad pitches in and pays her $500 rent a month, or he moves out.

    Safe to say, Dad wasn't happy about the deal.

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    AITAH for telling my dad I will start charging rent after his "two week stay" hit month five

    I am 27F, live in a small city apartment with a finished basement that I used to use as an office and hobby space.
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    In late June my dad, 55M, asked if he could crash with me for "two weeks" after a breakup.
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    He is not unsafe or violent, just loud and messy and a bit charming when it suits him.
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    I said yes because he is my dad and he looked wrecked. The first weekend I cleared out the basement, gave him the good air mattress and a dresser, wrote the wifi on a sticky note, all that.
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    Two weeks turned into "just til I sign a new lease", then "my deposit is delayed", then "I might move in with a friend".
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    Every time I asked for a date, I got a story. In the meantime my electric bill jumped, my grocery bill jumped, the office that let me take paid freelance gigs became a TV room with soccer on at 2 am.
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    I tried soft boundaries. Please wash your dishes the same day. Please do not smoke on the back steps.
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    Please give me a heads up if you plan to invite someone over. He apologized every time and then did it again.
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    In August I sent a budget screenshot and asked for 300 a month to cover utilities and the space.
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    He paid once, late, and said it felt weird to pay his kid. In September he brought home a stray cat for three days without asking.
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    I ended up vacuuming litter out of my rug and replacing a chewed charger. Last week I came home to him hosting three coworkers watching a game in my living room, chips everywhere.
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    I snapped a bit, said the new rule is rent on the first, 500, or he needs to give me a move out date for end of the month.
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    He called me cold and said "family should be family, money talk is gross". My aunt texted that I am humiliating him and he just needs time to get back on his feet.
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    I feel guilty because he helped me with a down payment on my first car years ago and I do love him.
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    But I also feel like a landlord to someone who never signed anything. AITAH for putting a rent number and a deadline on my own parent, or am I just doing basic adult boundaries.
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    If there is a better script, I am open to it, I just cant be the free hotel anymore.
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    NTA. Technical_Lawbster If the aunt is so adamant about "family is family" she can take him. Check the laws, get everything in writing and start collecting eviction proofs.
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    HUNGWHITEBOI25 Op...come on you KNOW you're NTA here. Your father is becoming a burden and is slowly turning your home into his home. You did nothing wrong but you know your father has NO plan of ever leaving
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    Nta Hour Prestigious 1055 You've given him five months, now he needs to start paying rent, he's had plenty of time to save money AND find a place.
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    Technical-Habit-5114 Nta sounds like Auntie just volunteered to host
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    MEDICARE_FOR_ALL Tell him to gather his stuff and then go drop him off at the aunt's house. NTA
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    p1z4rr0 Just remember, if he pays rent he is not going to think twice about doing all the things you dislike, and it will probably get worse.
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    Veyla_Orin NTA tbh. Family absolutely should be family, and that means respecting your space. Family or not, there's gotta be some sense of mutual respect, right now it seems like you're just taking bullets.
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