Mother kicks entitled family out for gatecrashing her son's private birthday party and stealing food: 'That doesn't matter, my children want some food'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Nov 11, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Remember that time when you were a kid and your parents took you to Bouncy Land to gate-crash on another kid's birthday? Me neither, but that is certainly something that is going to come up in therapy for some young adult 20 years from now.

Perhaps this experience isn't entirely universal and is coming from a place of privilege, but I feel that most of us had the understanding as kids, at least at some point, that our parents and the other adults in our lives were benevolent beings who had our best interests at heart. No matter how imperfect we might have realized they were as we grew up, I think a lot of us can thank our parents for the fact that they were at least trying to do the right thing. 

But I can very vividly remember the first time I realized that a teacher just didn't like me for some reason. I definitely could be a bit talkative in class, sure, but I had other great qualities as a student. But realizing that, for whatever reason, this teacher just really didn't care for me on a fundamental level was a formative moment for me in a world that had, until that point, had my best interests at heart. 

I'd have to imagine that realizing your own parents are selfish and entitled must feel like something along these lines. Without a doubt, these parents were in the wrong, both for gatecrashing another kid's birthday party in what was a private event and for putting their own kids in a situation that they are going to remember for years as the time mom and dad took us to another kid's birthday.

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    "AITA for kicking out a family that gatecrashed a private party?"

    I booked a soft play for my son's birthday party. It has both public sessions and private sessions, I obviously booked one of the private sessions and didn't interfere with the usual times it's available 'to the public'.
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    Two children play on an bouncy playground
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    When I opened the buffet, a woman I didn't know approached me, asking if her children could have some. I explained I had booked the venue for a private party, she said 'that doesn't matter, my children want some food'. I replied no because the food was for the party.
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    She walked away telling her children to just wait until I had left the food area. Realising she wasn't taking my answer, I asked staff to speak to her.
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    They did, explaining it was a private event and they needed to leave. She shouted that her and her children were not leaving and that I should be told to allow the children to have the food.
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    I went back over, said again it was a private event, and she shouted 'what is a sandwich?!' repeatedly at me, until I shouted back that she needed to leave. She did eventually leave, 'flicking the Vs' at me as she walked out the door.
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    The soft play wasn't at capacity, and in truth, there probably was enough for them to have some of the buffet, but the way she approached me with the assumption I'd say yes, and then blatantly planning to disregard my answer made me stand my ground.
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    So AITA for kicking out the gatecrashers? EDIT: OK so first of all, I did not expect this to literally blow up the way it has... I thought a couple of people would say yes or no, and that would be it ✔
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    Apolgies for the long edit, but there's been a few 'themes' within comments, so I'll try to address them; • A soft play is a massive indoor climbing frame covered in padding and safety nets, with slides and ball pits etc. I think some may call it a 'jungle gym' but I'm not sure that is a direct comparison
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    . 'flicking the Vs' is a peace sign but showing the back of your hand. About the same level of rude as giving the middle finger in the UK
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    • The venue shares a desk with an adjoining spots hall, which wasn't running open sessions as it was hosting a game. Past the desk is the exit, (it's one door in, one door out thing) door 1 to the
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    soft play, door 2 to the sports hall. I found out later she had come to use the sports hall and was told about the game. Staff thought she went out the exit
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    . • I've spoken to the venue about her being able to get in, and they apologised and are changing how they operate the private sessions. Despite this happening, I think the place has appropriate security measures. I think she took
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    advantage of staff being. busy letting in spectators to the sports hall and tried her luck. As we have an invite for a party here in a few weeks, I'll know if they do and can raise it again if needed, but hopefully won't need to
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    • I went back over when the staff member was talking to her because I felt bad that I put a young girl in the firing line. This woman was just shouting that she wasn't leaving, and I also hadn't spotted them come in, but I should have let her/her manager sort it
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    • Some people asked about the kids ages. Top age of an invited child was 5. Her two kids were 8/9 and 9/10 . • I replied to a couple of comments that I would have told her the kids could have some after all the guests had eaten, if it had been a question and not a demand.
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    I am responsible for my actions, but they were influenced by hers, and I am glad I stood my ground and wasn't bullied at my own event, although not proud that I did shout at the end
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    Again, I didn't expect this would get so much attention, but to those who were polite and asked questions, thank you. To anyone who asked 'why are you even asking?' or similar, I was asking to gauge if I was unreasonable for standing my ground because of her actions/reactions. Maybe this was the wrong sub, I'm not very reddit savvy, apologies if I put it in the wrong place...
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    And for anyone who thinks I made it up... I don't know what to tell you... it happened, and I'm glad you've not encountered a similar experience before and/or can't believe it
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be TA because I shouted back at her instead of walking away, the request was for 2 plates of buffet food which likely wouldn't have taken away from what the party guests had available, 2 kids had to leave a soft play they were otherwise enjoying.
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