Dad leaves wife and three children for 11-day trip to the Bahamas, missing daughter's eye surgery to relax on a beach: 'He's making me feel crazy for being mad'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Nov 20, 2025 12:00 PM EST

Having a partner that seems to forget at the most inconvenient moments that adulthood is team sport is incredibly frustrating. Most of us have learned pretty quickly that marriage and parenting is not about "every man for himself." No, it's about teamwork, and if one goes down, both go down together and fighting. But every now and then, someone randomly reverts to their pre-family brain, and the results are exemplified perfectly in today's tale

One woman's in-laws invited her husband on a family vacation and made it very clear they meant him and his siblings only, as though he's still 17 and not a grown adult with a wife, a job, and no less than three children. He claims he was guilted into saying yes… which might be more sympathetic if the timing didn't coincide with his wife working full-time, solo-parenting for days, and their daughter literally having an important eye surgery.

So now she's overwhelmed, furious, and trying to figure out how her husband could possibly think this was okay. Meanwhile, he's wondering why she's "still mad" three days later. You can probably imagine what the internet commenters are thinking about this one, but scroll down anyway to read it for yourself. 

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    AITA/ my inlaws want to take only my husband to the bahamas for 11 days and leave me and the kids at home. Am i wrong for being angry?

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    My inlaws asked my husband to go on vacation with them and said they wanted it "just them and thier kids" aka him and his 2
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    to take on all the responsibilities of them. I work fulltime. And during that time our daughter has surgery on her eyes. Ive been
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    angry with him for 3 days now for agreeing to go. He thinks i should be over it by now. Is he right?
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    MrsNevilleBartos If it were me he'd come home to his shit packed and divorce papers. Edit: forgot to include NTA
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    Inside_Activity_4233 OP Im trying to decide how mad i should be, but truly i feel disgusted. Thank you. He's making me feel crazy for being mad so i didn't know if i was over reacting.
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    MrsNevilleBartos Your child is having surgery and you work full time plus there are two other kids.
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    He AND his parents are assholes and I'm betting this isn't the first instance of it either.
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    Your husband gets to choose - you and his kids or his parents.
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    DragonCelt25 If this were in a movie the reviews would be dragging the writers for making the husband and his parents too
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    awful to be believed. Like it's so wildly terrible there's no way it's the first time he's being a shit parent (which he
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    clearly learned from his own parents). I don't know if there's any coming back from him even considering the trip, let alone agreeing.
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    Going on a family trip without his spouse: not great, but I could see mitigating circumstances
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    . . . Leaving her to full time care for their kid alone while working full time: sucks, but maybe there's something logistically causing the issue.
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    Would start questioning his interest in parenting. Hoping there's support people to help.
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    *3 kids: ok fuck off dude - he's running away from parenting
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    When his kiddo is scheduled for surgery: Holy shit, man, wtf?! Do you hate your children and being a dad so
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    much that you don't care what happens to her or how your wife n other kiddos are handling the stress? Are you
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    such a bad dad you can't imagine your daughter wanting her dad when she's going thru something scary?
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    *On her eyes: Ok, I would call this man the devil, but devils understand contractual obligations like marriage and parenthood. Dude is trash
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    and he's taking himself (out his awful parents are taking him) to the curb. And they have no right to call themselves grandparents.
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    algunarubia NTA. 11 days and he didn't even run it by you before agreeing? Did he even apologize for agreeing without consulting you? Even if
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    he felt pressured by his parents to accept, he could easily have put them off by saying, "I've got to check with OP- I'll get back to you after I talk to her.
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    I think he's a lot happier about this turn of events than he wants you to believe. Stay mad. I really don't think I'd stay married to a guy who pulled a stunt like this.
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