Sister refuses to attend family vacation after discovering her sisters expect her to cover ¼ of the cost, despite being the only sibling without kids: 'It is unfair to charge me the same as a family of 4'

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Nov 25, 2025 3:00 PM EST

As the only person in my family without kids of my own, I know how divisive that little detail can be. Being the only single person in a family, the only one without a core family of their own, can be quite isolating, and in some cases, can be expensive as well. 

Take the woman in the story below as an example. Her family goes on a family getaway every year, where they rent a house on a lake and enjoy their time together. However, out of the three siblings, she is the only one without a partner or kids, and this year it is causing a divide in the family.

You see, both her sisters require more than one room in the vacation house for their children. But when the bill for the vacation came in, the family still split it four ways, completely disregarding the fact that their single sister is only one person, and shouldn't pay the same amount as a full family.

When the single sister brought this up, she was shot down, and now she considers backing out of the vacation altogether... 

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  • 01

    AITA for refusing to go on a family trip if I have to pay 1/4 of the cost?

    Throwaway as my family follows my main. Every year my family (parents, two sisters and 4 nieces/nephews) go on a family getaway.
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    Frustrated woman paying bills online at home
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    We rent a house on a lake and take time to enjoy being together. This year my sister did thebl booking for a 6 bedroom house.
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    1 bedroom for me, one for my parents, one for my sister and her husband, another for my other sister and her husband and 2 bedrooms for the kids.
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    Each of my sisters have two kids. It is also important to note that the "kids" are all over 19 so are also adults.
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    I just got the bill for my portion and it is 1/4 of the total costs (i am single with no kids).
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    I asked why and was told it was divided "by family". I personally think it is unfair to charge me the same amount as a family of 4.
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    I suggested perhaps the cost should be divided by bedrooms used but was shot down. Aita for saying I won't go if I have to subsidize my sister's families portions?
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    NTA KronkLaSworda They're literally asking you to subsidize their family's vacation.
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    Prestigious_Blood_38 NTA it should be evenly split by bedroom OR bedroom + adults, or a mix thereof. It's unfair to ask you to subsidize other peoples travel. I would give your parents the option to pay for it, or your sister can. I would not pay more than 1/6 personally. Regardless of whether they are kids or adults, and especially since they're adults.
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    calacmack Dividing the cost by bedrooms is logical and fair and it's difficult to understand why they think otherwise. NTA.
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    shyfidelity NTA. Just decline and say it's out of your budget.
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    chacha727727 If my math is correct that's 11 adults? It should be split by person or bedroom to actually be fair.
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    chacha727727 Nta. I'd either sit the trip out or look for alternative accommodations that might be cheaper like a hotel nearby.
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    allergymom74 NTA. 1/6 since you got your own room is okish. But that is the max I'd offer. Especially since bathroom and public space use is limited by the total number of people. And since it's 11 people going, yikes.
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    Objective_Joke_5023 Divide the house expense by bedrooms. So it would be 1/6 for every bedroom. Household expenses, like food, divide per person.
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    Joyjmb NTA. My sister tried this ONCE with me... and her family of EIGHT.
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