18-year-old repeatedly catches her teen niece secretly using and wasting her perfumes and toiletries, discovering her untouched bottle of perfume was drained in one month, niece continues despite being warned to stop: 'This is mine and she knows that'

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Emma Saven
Nov 22, 2025 9:00 AM EST

This aunt seems to have been involuntarily cast in the sister role in this Family Drama…She's eighteen years old and living with her thirteen-year-old niece, so there are bound to be a few sisterly crossover episodes! Family is family at the end of the day, whether they share parents or not. I have a little brother, so luckily I've never had to deal with the whole 'If you touch my perfume one more time' thing, but it's evident that's not the unique case for everyone. 

This young adult is fed up with her teenage niece, after catching her countless times using her perfumes and toiletries without asking. It's not that she has a problem with sharing them. It's more the fact that she never asks, and goes on to use the whole product as if she's trying to swim in it. Nobody needs that much perfume, especially when they're trying to get away with using it! This has been going on for years, but this aunt has finally reached a breaking point after finding her untouched perfume, almost completely drained after one month! She knows it's all materialistic goods, and that sharing is caring, but that does not mean that she has to sit back and act clueless!  

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  • She contemplates confronting her again, after multiple failed attempts, or proceeding with hiding all of her perfumes away inside her bedroom. However, the latter option makes her feel as though she's hiding a hazardous object away from a 2-month-old baby, not a thirteen-year-old girl who needs to learn what belongs to her, and what doesn't! 

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  • WIBTA if I got mad at my niece for using my perfumes?

    Okay, this seems petty but I'm really tired of this, and I want to bring it to outsider perspectives.
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  • I (F18) have had a lot of perfumes over the years. They're nothing extremely expensive, but they're mine and I don't really like having to buy new ones unless I have to because the last bottle ran out.
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  • My niece (F13) lives with me, because her mom has five other kids and it's a two bedroom house.
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  • The first time she used my perfumes was 2 years ago, and I asked her to stop.
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  • She was using my perfumes as "air freshener" in my bedroom (and neglecting the actual can of air freshener that I keep in my room).
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  • I told her that perfumes aren't used for air freshener, and that she was using way too much anyway.
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  • The next time it happened was a few weeks after, we were on vacation together and she used it without asking and she used a LOT.
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  • When I walked into her room in the house we were staying in, it smelled extremely strongly of my perfume and she started denying that she used it.
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  • At the time, I got a bit frustrated with her and told her that if she wanted to use it she needs to ask, not take it from my room without asking, and that she doesn't need to use so much.
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  • That it was a waste. My cousin, my niece's mom and my mom said I was being a bit hard on her and that I wasn't being fair.
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  • I felt bad and apologised and shrugged it off. Fast forward to right now. I keep a bottle of perfume in the bathroom because I use it sometimes when I'm going to go out, but not that often.
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  • This bottle is a bottle that my mom gave me, that was almost completely full less than a month ago.
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  • I leave my room, decide to shower, and an extremely overwhelming perfume smell hits me. As I'm setting my bottle of soap down I notice that the bottle is 3/4 empty.
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  • I don't know how long she's been using it, but once again, this is mine and she knows that.
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  • She has her own perfumes, she has her own scents. This is my only bottle and she insists on using it clearly.
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  • Obviously, I'm going to make sure the perfume is no longer accessible to her and put it in my room because that's ridiculous.
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  • It's a big bottle and in less than a month it's almost completely gone and I've only used it probably twice.
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  • She uses a lot of my products in the same way too (shampoo, soap, cocoa butter) when I accidentally leave them in the bathroom, and these are all products I personally pay for, and she has soaps and stuff like that that are hers or are used by everyone else in the family.
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  • LatterEbb9760 I've raised 3 kids. Look up frontal lobe development. She is displaying normal behavior of increased risk taking and impulsive behaviors. Everyone thinks she knows she's doing something wrong, but she probably just thinks that OP doesn't wanna share with her.
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  • OP kahlumi But I have offered to share.. that's the issue, it's that I ask her to ask me first and I also don't want her using so much that it's just a waste. If she asked and didn't use so much, I would have virtually no problem with it. Even if she wants to use my "good" perfumes, I would give it to her no problem if she just asked. It's not that I don't want to share
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  • Prudent-Reserve4612 NTA, of course! She's old enough to know better, and she keeps doing it. Start hiding them somewhere else. Don't tell your mom or your aunt where, because they clearly won't back you up here.
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  • Funny-Technician-320 NTA. You've been too soft. Make her replace what she's used then lock them away.
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  • LayaElisabeth Go buy the nastiest 'eau de granny' (bonuspoints for the nastiest grandpa aftershave) and put that in an empty perfume bottle of yours and wait.. Bonus bonus points for durian aroma XD
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