After giving 2-weeks notice, boss demands employee tell them where they're going: 'She's asking to try and blacklist you at the new company'

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Nov 26, 2025 10:00 PM EST

Leaving a job is always a little bit awkward, no matter how good the terms you're leaving on. It's just a little bit… awks. If they like you and appreciate your work, they probably don't want you to go and wonder why you're leaving. If they don't like you and force you to go (aka fire you), then your feelings are bound to be a little bit hurt. So in either scenario, you're probably feeling a little weird. The least your employer can do is help make it as painless as possible. There are a few ways to do this. They should keep things polite and cordial, no matter what. They should try to help you smooth your transition as much as they can. And they should refrain from asking too many questions. 

Sure, they might like some feedback on the company/their management style, but they're not entitled to know what you're doing next. You might elect to tell them if you think there's goodwill, but you just as well might keep that info under lock and key, lest something nefarious happens. 

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  • A stressed young businesswoman holds her head in her hands.
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  • That's the situation this employee found themselves in after they gave their 2-weeks notice to their boss. That's it, they thought. No need to provide any further information. But their boss wasn't satisfied with that. Read on to see what happened in this story and decide what you think about it. 

  • I put in my two weeks and my manager said I have to tell her where I'm going.

    I handed in my resignation yesterday and my manager actually had the nerve to say I need to disclose my next employer. Like... what? I told her that's my personal business and she got all pissy about it. Said something about "professional courtesy" and how the company needs to know for their records.
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  • Since when is this a thing? I'm giving you two weeks notice, which is already more than what's legally required. Where I'm going next is none of your concern.
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  • flyingw... 1d ago · Edited 1d ago • • Don't tell her obviously. She's asking to try and blacklist you at the new company. Absolute BS Edit: if you do want to make up something, "I will be working for Jeff Bezos as his professional helicopter rotor blade polisher"
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  • A frustrated businesswoman puts her head in her hands at work.
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  • Commenters thought there might be something more going on here.

    tracerhaha1 1d ago • Dollars to donuts she wants to call your new employer and get them to rescind the job offer by lying to them.
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  • kvlr954 • 1d ago Vandelay Industries
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  • Substantial_Track_17 1d ago • the "professional courtesy" was putting in your two weeks
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  • BigLoungeScene • 1d ago Do. Not Tell them. It's none of their beeswax where you're going, you could just as easily be quitting without another position lined up. They most likely want the info to sabotage you at your new job. Congrats for moving on and don't look back!
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  • mandrack3 • 1d ago "Nowhere. That's right. I just hate it here. Managers are so nosy" K
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  • gargravarr2112 1d ago • Absolutely do not reveal this, to your boss or any of your coworkers - she may try to pry it out of someone else you tell. Power-tripping bosses will try their best to sabotage your new opportunity over the perceived slight of disloyalty.
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  • Harde_Kassei · 1d ago • The fact they ask is red flag enough.
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  • Andravisia 1d ago Lie, lie, lie. • It is not immoral to lie to protect yourself from potential abuse. If you do not feel safe or comfortable teeling the truth.
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  • Give big name companies. Yes, it's funny to give fake names and make her privately feel stupid. But it's even funnier if she makes a fool of herself by reaching out to real companies to try and get your job offer recinded. Let her make a name for herself in the community as a shit-disturber.
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  • . cipherjones • 1d ago Professional courtesies are reserved for professionals, ma'am.
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  • mordrath · 1d ago Fun option. Tell her some bullshit. Make up a name. Give her a friend's phone number if they are cool with helping. Have them ready to record the illegal thing she is trying to do.
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  • spaceballsrules 1d ago Pick one of your current employer's biggest accounts and tell them it's that company. Then watch your boss try to burn you at that company (where you don't work) and proceed to lose the account due to lack of professionalism.
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  • YogSothothRules • 1d ago She don't need to know shit
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  • JunkmanJim 1d ago • Whoever is their biggest competitor, tell them that's where you're going. They can't very well say they called that company and call you a liar, lol.
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  • BWSD 1d ago . She's full of shit. You need to report this to HR. Never, ever tell anyone where you're going. Ever. Let them find out over time.
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  • ZerOdaveexploit • 1d ago . Sorry you don't have the security clearance to have that information.
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  • billy_lam26 . 1d ago Just to make her uncomfortable I'd ask why and ask if she is going to call them to talk crap about me. Then tell her that I don't believe her if she says no. &$!#%
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  • 530_Oldschoolgeek • 1d ago I have a friend who owns his own small business. I have a standing arrangement with him that if I should ever leave a job, | will leak I'm going to work for him and see if my soon to be ex boss tries to lay a shit talking on me there.
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  • OP, If your boss brings it up again, tell her flat out, "I still have time to make that 2 week notice a 2 minute notice if you ask me that question again, and I will make sure HR and my attorney are looped in as to the reason why"
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  • OGCeeg • 1d ago It's not a thing. She's trying to sabotage your new job so you can stay. You don't have to disclose anything about a resignation unless they want to do an exit interview..which is something I never heard of until I got a new job fairly recently. A
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