Coworker lies about finishing presentation to take 'mental health afternoon', gets upset when reported to management: 'I spent all night doing his work'

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  • a man closes his eyes and smiles with his hands behind his head while sat at a desk with a laptop
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  • Am I wrong for reporting my coworker after he lied about finishing a project to take a 'mental health day'?

    I (28M) and my coworker, Dave (30M), were partners on a major client presentation due Monday at 9 AM. We split the work, I was doing the data/models, he was handling the design and slides. We agreed to have everything ready to merge by 5 PM Friday.
  • Friday afternoon, I'm finishing my part. I message Dave at 3 PM asking for an update. His words, "All good, slides are done and polished. I'm fried though, I'm gonna log off a bit early for a mental health afternoon. See you Monday!" I said okay and logged off too, relieved.
  • a man sits in an office with his head in his hand, surrounded by computer screens with data on them
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  • Sunday night, I get a gut feeling and log in to check the shared folder. The slide deck is there, but it's just a rough, half-finished template from Wednesday. None of the polished work he described is there. I panicked and spent all night until 5 AM doing his half of the work to finish it. The presentation happened and went fine, but I was exhausted and running on caffeine.
  • Now Monday morning, I confronted Dave. He admitted he lied. He said he was burnt out and just wanted the long weekend, and figured he could "throw it together quickly" Sunday night but fell asleep. He apologized and thanked me for "having his back."
  • I was furious. I went to our boss and reported the situation. I said I didn't feel I could trust him as a partner. Dave got a formal written warning. Now, he and a few other coworkers are calling me an asshole. They say I should have just talked to him, that I "solved" the problem by doing the work, and reporting him was vindictive and could hurt his career. They say I didn't care about his mental health.
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  • SomeoneInQld NTA - the other guy FA and FO
  • OP Busy-Suit-573 \#neededtohearthat
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  • kidd_gloves NTA. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
  • binger5 Deadlines are different than just being stressed out. Random stressed out situation you can take a couple of mental health days and then catch up. When you're an adult and facing a deadline, you finish it or find people to help you finish it. NTA
  • bythebrook88 >They say I didn't care about his mental health. Fair, but Dave didn't care about OP's mental health either! Or the mental health of both of them if they'd showed up to the 9AM presentation without a finished slide deck.
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  • LinkzGal "They say I should have just talked to him, that I "solved" the problem by doing the work, and reporting him was vindictive and could hurt his career. They say I didn't care about his mental health." Well, apparently he didn't care about hurting YOUR career, and, by extension, YOUR mental health.
  • Nta wanderingstorm You didn't get Dave written up. Dave got himself written up.
  • Straight_Pace_6620 He is not u responsibility. Complaint to HR if those nasty coworkers bullied u again.
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  • Only_Constant_8305 NTA - coworkers like these are the worst
  • EwwDavvidd NTA. Dave needs to be accountable for his work, especially client work. You did the correct thing.
  • angelicak92 I wonder how many times he's done this to other people and has spent so long coasting on others efforts. Nta
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