Entitled husband demands stay-at-home mom homeschool their 3-year-old daughter, despite the mom's disinterest in homeschooling: 'If it's so important to him, let him homeschool.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Dec 29, 2025 11:00 AM EST

She's not going to be a very good teacher if she doesn't want to be one.

Homeschooling is one of those things that you should only do if you're fully committed. If you're only feeling 50% about doing it, your kids would probably be better off in a public school. You shouldn't homeschool unless you're fully committed, because if you're homeschooling your kids, you are solely responsible for their education. If your kid's 7th-grade science teacher is mediocre, that's not ideal, but they will only be getting instruction from her for 45 minutes a day for a year. If you're schooling your kids from kindergarten through 12th grade and you are phoning it in half the time, that means they're getting a mediocre education for half of their schooling, and that's a problem. In public schools, administrative bodies track teachers' performance to ensure they are performing their jobs well. Some poor teachers slip through the cracks, but that doesn't mean schools don't fire teachers for their students' underperformance. Homeschool moms never receive a performance review, so they must rely on their own judgment to ensure they are doing a good job. Caring about the quality of their children's education isn't enough. If a parent's heart isn't in homeschooling, they won't be able to sustain it in the long term, as it is a difficult undertaking.

Sometimes parents want to homeschool, but life circumstances can get in the way of pursuing it. Sometimes, the parent who wants to homeschool their children is the breadwinner and doesn't have the budget to stay home and teach. At other times, there is family turmoil that homeschooling would only exacerbate. The family in this story falls into both of these situations. 

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  • The dad in this story wants nothing more than for his wife to homeschool their daughter, but his wife straight-up does not want to do it. He is not taking no for an answer, and it's making his wife question whether she should even stay in this marriage in the first place.

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  • My husband demanded that I homeschool my 3 year old child even though I don't want to.

    My child is 3 and a smart kid. She goes to an indoor activity place that has started offering one day a week 3 hour drop offs
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  • where they learn letters, numbers, art, and such. I love the place and signed her up, and also mentioned it to my husband who said. that it's ok.
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  • All year 2-3 of my child's life, he's been forcing me to accept me homeschooling my child until whenever I choose to stop. But I honestly can't find myself to
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  • homeschool. I tried to do it and I just don't have the bone in me to homeschool. I am a SAHM with a small business.
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  • The day before the actual drop off, my husband goes absolutely insane with "I thought you were going to homeschool her!? If you don't want to homeschool
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  • her and put her in the one day a week class, you'll have to go to work" And I said well I would homeschool her but this is only one day a week. I never have a break to myself, with my child.
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  • 24/7 so this one day a week thing is like a small break for me. Tbh he's verbally abusive at times, by yelling at me, stonewalling, and calling me bitch.
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  • KeyAccomplished4442 So If it's so important to him let him homeschool
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  • OP Absolutely-dude He would never homeschool her himself as he's "too busy with his career" and would rather put her in a private school we would not be able to afford
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  • Bittybellie Why are you married to someone that is abusive to you? Is this the example you want your child to grow up thinking is normal? Homeschooling is the least of your worries, you need to get away from your abusive spouse
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  • OP Absolutely-dude This isn't what I want my child to grow thinking is normal. When he was screaming at me just an hour ago, my daughter pushed her dad and said "stop that's not nice" but it's hard for me to leave. I don't have much money, we live together in a house owned by my parents
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  • Avocado_toast_27 And if you do find a job OP, do not put your paycheck in an account that he has access to, open a new account and don't even tell him what bank it's at. You need some financial independence and your own money so you can work toward leaving this pathetic excuse for a husband.
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  • OP Absolutely-dude I have my own bank account, not much in there and he doesn't give me much. I take care of house,food,grocery, care of our child. My small business doesn't create a big income but I can get into waitressing.
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  • IHadDibs You know he's abusive. You know things could get worse. Do you have the support and resources you need to leave him?
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  • OP Absolutely-dude I have familial support but don't have the money to divorce him. And honestly am scared to leave him. He is very explosive
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  • EatYourCheckers I don't get it. Being home with you is homeschooling. Read to the child. Name the letters. Have them make noise with pots and pans. Take walks and talk about the animals you see and how they live and what they eat. Talk about why you are cleaning. And what you are cooking. Does he want a curriculum with standardized tests for a toddler? Or is he co corned the child is just sitting in front of TV all day? (By the way, my kids knew multiplication by age 6 because of NumberBlocks so
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  • OP Absolutely-dude He is very controlling, does not let me do things myself or makes a fuss. Won't let me let her stay with my parents for more than 2 hours. I take care our groceries, cleaning, cooking, our child, all activities.
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  • cheezy_dreams88 What are you trying to homeschool a 2-3 year old for? Play is school at that age. One day a week for 3 hours isn't them going to class, it's a break for you not an entire day of school.
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  • OP Absolutely-dude I agree. One day a week for 2-3 hours is a break for me. Which I desperately need but my husband does not agree. He thinks I have to homeschool her this young to get her a headstart in education. I mostly played all day when I myself was 3
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  • Particular_Sea_4497 Girl, you need to find a job asap. He's abusive as you said. I'm not sure how to deal with this but you have to be aware it's not normal what he wants from you. He knows that with more time you'll be more independent and he fears that.
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  • WillowCat89 I have the feeling he's the type to say since she "doesn't work" he doesn't have to be responsible at all, ever, for THEIR child. ...the whole "if you take her to daycare you need to get a job," comment leads me to think that. My husband knew damn well that if he wanted a clean house and happy children when they were threenagers, 1-2 days of daycare was worth the price, because it was MUCH cheaper and more beneficial to him than FT daycare, a working wife, and either him busting his
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  • Ok-Fish-3539 "My husband" and "demands" don't usually go together in a healthy marriage. I would never describe anything my husband says or does as "demanding". Also... your child is 3. She doesn't need to do school yet. It's enough to just sing the alphabet song, ask her what colors things are, count toys while playing, etc. But also... I know it's harder to be a single parent, and I don't pretend to know the predicament that you're in, but I would seriously consider leaving. It starts with ver
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  • lovelydani20 You need to find a job ASAP to get some financial independence and make a plan to leave. This sounds abusive and potentially dangerous for you and the child.
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