Woman wonders if her 2-year relationship is a mistake because her boyfriend hates her cats: 'I love my cats more than anything in the world and he literally doesn't care.'

Here prances the drama king, who apparently didn't know what he was walking into when he agreed to live with his cat pawrent of a girlfriend.

Nope, we don't think it's an exaggeration. The one who came to the World Wide Web to seek advice is the girlfriend, but her subtext paints a very concerning picture. The present picture is of a boyfriend who is borderline hostile to his girlfriend's cats while living together. But that doesn't beat the picture of the past, where we can connect the dots of a person who knows his girlfriend has cats, who knows he dislikes cats, and yet agrees to move in together.

There are a couple of reasons for that to happen:

He thinks so little about cats that he really assumes they won't matter in the apartment whatsoever. He has no clue about cats, and an unwillingness to learn, if he didn't do so before the move.
He thinks so little about his girlfriend and the love she holds in her heart for these cats. She even says so herself - they're her babies. He just ignores it.

These two reasons result in a man who is hostile towards the creatures dearest to his girlfriend's heart. They were there before him, and they can be there after him. It's not like the girlfriend asked him so he could convince her not to adopt cats. We're not relationship advisers, but it seems as if he doesn't understand his girlfriend as a cat person, so he doesn't understand his girlfriend as a person at all.

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When two people in a relationship decide to live together, and one of them has pets, there's usually a certain symbiosis process going on between the partner who was petless and what are, essentially, their new pets. It might take months, but pets become “shared” - so what if one person adopted them before?
It's a psychological phenomenon even stronger than the effort justification. If only effort justification applies, a person might think “I already invested so much time and money taking care of this thing, I might as well go along with it”. But with pets of your partner? This is no mere effort justification. The other person usually grows to genuinely love and care for their partner's cats and dogs (or other pets). This way, they “win” a loving animal in the house while not adopting it in the first place.
And the pet? Well, winning another loving human parent is never bad.
But here…? We think there's a certain refusal to even acknowledge the cats…
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Look, we really are not relationship advisers, but in this case? If anyone's being rehomed - it's the boyfriend. Also rehoming him away from the relationship, making him an ex-boyfriend. In addition, maybe warn any girl with pets that he would want to move in with. Our cats, dogs, and other animal friends come first.
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