Sister accuses her brother of "betraying a legacy", after she discovers that he sold the 10-year-old “heirloom” gold coin gifted to him by their parents, to pay off his financial debt: 'It’s not actually an heirloom. There’s no family history'

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    Adult siblings arguing in their family's living room while sitting on a couch
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    AITAH for selling something my parents called an “heirloom” and not telling them?

    So about 10 years ago my parents gave me a gold coin. They called it an "heirloom" and made a big deal about how I should keep it forever and pass it down someday.
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    Except... it's not actually an heirloom. There's no family history. They bought it online like 10 years ago because gold was "safe" and it sat around in their closet until they "passed it on" to me.
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    Fast forward to this year. Life happens, money got tight, and gold prices are way up.
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    I sold the coin. Used the money to knock out some high interest debt and cover an unexpected repair.
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    Honestly it helped a lot and I'm no longer bullish. I didn't tell my parents. At a family dinner a couple weeks back my mom said something like "your kids will have that coin someday." I didn't say anything.
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    I didn't lie, but I didn't correct her either. I told my sister about it later and she flipped out, saying I "destroyed a family legacy" and lied by omission.
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    An outdoor family dinner in the spring
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    Now she's saying I owe my parents an apology and should have asked first. There were never any conditions on the gift.
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    It was mine. I didn't blow the money on something stupid. But now I'm being told I betrayed their trust and disrespected what the gift was supposed to represent.
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    AITAH here or is this being blown out of proportion?
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    lapsteelguitar Why did you say anything to your sister? That was a stupid. I said it.
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    OP clearcutsupply Will have to agree with you here. I thought we had a bond. Is she also TAH?
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    OP clearcutsupply If something is framed as having a history it doesn't actually have, I'm not sure how I'm supposed to instinctively treat it as sacred forever.
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    OkSignature3562 YTA, but you don't care. It's disingenuous to claim you didn't know you were supposed to keep it or to pass it down to your kids when they called it an heirloom when they gave it to you. Also it's disingenuous to claim there were any stipulations on the gift when they told you it was an heirloom. Do you just not know what the word "heirloom" means? Did you knowingly understand what an heirloom was and sold it because you thought you could get away with it? Heirloom; a valuable ob
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    OP clearcutsupply But it's not an heirloom. When I asked where it came from I learned they bought it online like 10 years ago...lol. It made no sense...lol.
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    HeartMelodic8572 How do you say that neither one of you are the A? Here's my take: 1. They were trying to begin the tradition of an heirloom, so they told you it was an heirloom, so their grandkids, Etc, would say this is an heirloom from these particular set of grandparents. But they didn't tell you that it was the beginning of the heirloom's life, and they were trying to get it trending in the family! That was their mistake, but it doesn't make them an Ahole. Every heirloom starts somewhere I
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    An ancient gold coin on a black surface
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    geomann5k NTA and not an heirloom. Heirlooms have stories and history attached to them, memories of significance to the family. Not to make light of it, but what's this coin's history? It was purchased from some website, sat in a closet for ten years, and then given away. What's the significance there? I'll grant that a decade may not be long enough to attach a memory of import to the coin, but it doesn't sound like there was any REAL attachment to the object from anyone aside from the IDEA of h
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    OP clearcutsupply The date on the coin wasn't even a birth year or anything. I recently purchased proof american silver eagles with birth years of the kids. Maybe that can be a fresh start on the whole thing.
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    OP clearcutsupply Exactly, and the facts they presented did not even seem to be true.
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    ConvivialKat YTA for telling your sister what you did. Why didn't you keep your mouth shut????
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    OP clearcutsupply i never claimed i was smart...
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    Itchy_Juice_2528 NTA. Tell your parents before your sister does. You needed the money more than the coin. The coin had no sentimental value to either you or your parents even though they felt it was an "heirloom". A gold coin sitting in a drawer or jewelry box isn't much of a heirloom, you can't use it, it's not practical to display it. It was a gift to you and you used it for practical reasons. If your sister or parents think you've done something awful - they can buy another which will look ex
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    OP clearcutsupply Yeah, keeping 20% debt around for a PM just seemed stupid.

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