‘At first I thought my info got leaked somewhere’: 31-year-old keeps using her boyfriend's email and phone for signups, flooding his phone with spam until he shuts it down

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Feb 7, 2026 6:00 PM EST

Some people treat other people's contact info like a group project nobody asked to join.

Just imagine: you're just trying to live your life, and your inbox and texts suddenly look like a bargain bin at two a.m. Retail chains, delivery apps, yoga studios, furniture stores, even a "welcome" from a subscription you never signed up for. At first, you think your data got leaked or you accidentally joined something. Then you catch your partner casually typing your email and phone number into a promo sign-up like it's a joint checking account with no bankers involved.

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  • AITA for asking my partner to stop using my email and phone number to sign up for stuff?

    Me (M34) and my girlfriend (F31) have been living together a little over a year. Not married, no kids, pretty normal life.
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  • She's the type who loves deals, loyalty points, little "10% off if you join" things. I don't really care about coupons, but I do care about my inbox not being a dumpster fire.
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  • Her logic is simple and eerily confident: your email gets less spam, you don’t “check it anyway” so it’s fine. Never mind that you do check it, or that accounts are now glued to your phone number, flooding you with login codes, suspicious activity alerts, and endless marketing texts. Never mind that you can’t even opt out or tweak settings for half these accounts, because she’s the one who made them, with no plan for managing the fallout.

  • A couple months ago I started getting weird emails and texts. Not like one or two, more like daily.
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  • Random retail chains, food delivery apps, a yoga studio, some furniture store, even a "congrats on joining" from a subscription I never heard of.
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  • At first I thought my info got leaked somewhere, so I did the usual: changed passwords, checked for logins, the whole paranoid routine.
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  • Then I'm sitting next to her on the couch and she's signing up for some promo and I see her type... my email.
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  • Not a typo. My actual email. Then she used my phone number too. I asked her why and she said, super casually, "Oh, because you get less spam than me and you don't check it anyway." I DO check it, I just don't narrate my inbox like it's a hobby.
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  • Also, half of this stuff isn't even legit "coupons". It's accounts that are now tied to my phone, so I'm getting login codes. at 11pm because she forgot her password for some random store.
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  • Plus the marketing texts are relentless. I tried opting out, but it's like whack-a-mole and some of the accounts require you to log in to manage settings, which I can't because she made them.
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  • When you ask her to stop, it turns into a full-blown identity debate. Suddenly you’re the selfish one for wanting your own email and number back, like you’re the villain in a thriller about Wi‑Fi passwords and store loyalty points. She says it’s “not a big deal,” then gives your number to a third app because she doesn’t want to deal with a locked account. At that point, any “calm” setting is just lodged somewhere underneath your slowly mounting rage.


     

  • I told her I need her to stop using my info for signups. I said if she wants deals, cool, but use her own email and number, or make a separate throwaway.
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  • She got defensive fast. She said I'm being dramatic, that it's not "a big deal", and I'm acting like she stole money.
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  • I told her it feels gross because it's my contact info and I never agreed. She rolled her eyes and said "So now I'm not even allowed to use your email?
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  • Wow." Here's where it escalated. Last week I got a text from a delivery app about a "suspicious login", and then my phone was blowing up with verification codes.
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  • I asked her and she admitted she gave my number again because her account was "locked" and she didn't want to deal with it.
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  • This isn’t about being stingy or dramatic. It’s about basic boundaries: you don’t get to use another person’s identity as a cheap workaround just because it feels convenient. If she wants deals, there are throwaways, burner numbers, and her own perfectly fine inbox. The moment you’re cleaning up her signup mess without consent, it’s not “couple sharing.” It’s emotional and digital free-riding.

  • I snapped and told her if it happens one more time I'm changing my email recovery and blocking unknown texts for a while.
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  • She said that's controlling and I'm treating her like a kid. Then she told her friend, and now I'm getting the vibe that I'm being painted as this petty, stingy guy who's "mad about emails".
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  • I'm not trying to police her life, I just don't want my phone and email used like a shared junk drawer.
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  • If you’re the villain for wanting your contact info treated like yours and not a shared coupon bin, maybe the problem isn’t you, it’s the expectation that your phone and email are communal property.

  • AITA for putting my foot down on this?
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  • Beatleslover4ever1 NTA but why are you dealing with this stubborn child? Did she ever hear of creating new emails?
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  • slowcooksteward Original Poster's Reply Yeah, it's dumb. I'm not trying to blow up a year+ relationship over spam, but I told her straight: make a throwaway email/number or stop using mine. If she keeps pushing, then we've got a real problem.
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  • flash_gitzer NTA. Time to return the favor. Maybe start with Scientology and go from there.
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  • Ok_Paint_854 You are gonna get hacked my friend, she couldn't care less about you. Time to rethink this relationship, if she doesn't understand basic boundaries, where will it end???
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  • Rock3tSc13nc3 NTA Dump that girl. Block everything she sends. Reported as spam.
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  • geeoharee Is she stupid? She's sending 2- factor codes to a device that isn't hers? I would not be forming any serious financial connections to this person, and that includes living with her.
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  • Guillotine-Glytch This sounds like a repost. I remember reading this exact story in December of 2025
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  • chocolatechipwizard She sounds very self-centered. She has no regard for your boundaries, and no respect for you. Is this what you want the rest of your life to look like?
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  • Razzmatazz Neat9865 1-week account. Why am I not surprised.
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  • Penguinfeet110 Why can't she create another email? They're free. Does she realize she can have two?
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  • sportsfan3177 Download the Unroll Me app - it pulls all of those unwanted emails into one spot and you can block them by just hitting a button, instead of having to log onto each website to unsubscribe. It's cleaned up my inbox so much. Also, NTA. I'd be livid withy partner for using my email and phone number for this BS.
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