‘At first I thought my info got leaked somewhere’: 31-year-old keeps using her boyfriend's email and phone for signups, flooding his phone with spam until he shuts it down

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• AITA for asking my partner to stop using my email and phone number to sign up for stuff?

  
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• Her logic is simple and eerily confident: your email gets less spam, you don’t “check it anyway” so it’s fine. Never mind that you do check it, or that accounts are now glued to your phone number, flooding you with login codes, suspicious activity alerts, and endless marketing texts. Never mind that you can’t even opt out or tweak settings for half these accounts, because she’s the one who made them, with no plan for managing the fallout.

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• When you ask her to stop, it turns into a full-blown identity debate. Suddenly you’re the selfish one for wanting your own email and number back, like you’re the villain in a thriller about Wi‑Fi passwords and store loyalty points. She says it’s “not a big deal,” then gives your number to a third app because she doesn’t want to deal with a locked account. At that point, any “calm” setting is just lodged somewhere underneath your slowly mounting rage.

  
   

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• This isn’t about being stingy or dramatic. It’s about basic boundaries: you don’t get to use another person’s identity as a cheap workaround just because it feels convenient. If she wants deals, there are throwaways, burner numbers, and her own perfectly fine inbox. The moment you’re cleaning up her signup mess without consent, it’s not “couple sharing.” It’s emotional and digital free-riding.

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• If you’re the villain for wanting your contact info treated like yours and not a shared coupon bin, maybe the problem isn’t you, it’s the expectation that your phone and email are communal property.

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