Entitled mom announces she's bringing her 10-year-old daughter on a childfree girl's trip to Mexico, 1 week before the trip: 'We're not going to change the entire point of this trip just because of your inability to tell your kid no.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Mar 9, 2026 12:00 PM EDT

It's not as if her daughter had nowhere to go. She had two adults at home who were ready and willing to take care of her for the duration of the trip! 

"Who should I take on vacation with me?" can be a difficult question to answer. You're going to have a very different experience in London if you go with your parents than if you go with friends your own age. If you're single, you might not want to go on vacation with six couples who don't know how to hang out with their friends when their partner is in the same room. If you have a boyfriend of four years, it'd be kind of strange if you wanted to go on a six-week-long European vacation by yourself. Who you choose to go on vacation with is just as important as the location you visit and where you choose to lodge. It's perfectly reasonable to be pretty exclusive about who you travel with. I would get angry if someone invited a really annoying person to my excursion to Fire Island without asking the group if it was okay to invite them, and that doesn't make me a mean girl.

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  • A young girls smiles while wearing a life vest in the ocean in Mexico
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  • The ladies in this story agreed they wouldn't bring their kids on their girls' trip to Cancun. They'd had vacations together before where they brought their kids, but they all knew well that bringing their kids wouldn't be conducive to the vibe they were trying to cultivate on this particular trip. Well, almost all of them knew that. One of the friends decided to bring her daughter at the last minute, and was infuriated that her friends were irritated by her decision.

  • Am I the bad guy for ignoring our friend on our trip to Mexico because she brought her 10-year-old daughter along?

    Last year around this time, my friends and I planned a trip to Cancun Dream Natura Resort & Spa.
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  • We all wanted to drink, eat, dance & relax on the beach with NO KIDS. I'm the only one without kids, so I was really looking forward to spending time with just my friends to unwind.
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  • Every other trip before this was planned with the kids. But this time there would be no early bedtimes, no crying, no screaming, no sand in our drinks because kids think it's funny to throw sand.
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  • 1 WEEK before the trip, one of the friends said she's bringing her 10 year old.
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  • This woman can never tell her kid "No." We had all warned her before hand that if this happens, we weren't going to change anything.
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  • To say I was annoyed was an understatement lol but I sucked it up, I still had 2 friends who were going child free and had no intention of changing any plans.
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  • My two other friends and I drank, we ate amazing food, we danced all night & spent the day at the beach.
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  • The friend with the kid expressed her frustration about the rest of us doing what we wanted & she couldn't.
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  • My response was pretty much "well that s ks but we're not going to change the entire point of this trip just because of your inability to tell your kid no." We invited. her to do what we were doing multiple times but her response was always "I can't, my kid wants to go....." So there was definitely tension between the 3 of us & her the entire trip.
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  • When we were making our long way back home all 3 of us got a really nasty message from her fiancée.
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  • Calling us bad friends & how dare we not revolve our entire trip around her & their kid.
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  • That she had a terrible time & it was our fault. I was like pardon???? That was pretty much the last straw for me.
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  • Now I NEVER tell my friends how to parent their children. But their daughter is so nasty.
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  • She is so spoiled & like I've stated earlier, has never been told "No." So you can understand how entitled this child is.
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  • My other friends are a lot more reasonable when it comes to their children. Their children are polite, have a general understanding about boundaries & they behave really well for 8-10 year olds.
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  • My text back to him was pretty much: We made these plans a YEAR in advance.
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  • Expecting us to be fine with the fact that you guys dropped it on us that your child was coming a WEEK before we were leaving & then expecting us to change everything & cancel all of our plans because you guys can't tell your kid no, is not fair to us.
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  • At all. That is a YOU problem. Not ours. I'd understand if something came up & she had no choice but to bring her kid, sh happens, people cancel.
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  • But that was not the case. Her fiancé was home the entire time & her grandmother was looking forward to watching her granddaughter.
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  • But her kid freaked OUT about not being allowed to go on the trip & they couldn't tell her no.
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  • Now her & her fiancé are super ped. Were we in the wrong here??
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  • Floundering_Around NTA So the whole family is entitled. How charming. Your message was honestly very tame. I would've dragged the whole family if I was responding. Also, I would very much distance myself from that friend as much as possible but that's me and I'm quick to cut people out of my life when they're disrespectful. Not only does your friend not respect you and the rest of the friend group, but she doesn't respect herself or her child. That child will be very spoiled, entitled, and isola
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  • elliottsmama 731 NTA- who brings a child on an adult trip when it isn't an emergency then gets mad that they were excluded from activities. Why did her fiancé message you all. If she had an issue with it she should have said something. We all know why she didn't and that is because she knew she was in the wrong for bringing kid in the first place. What did your other friends say?
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply My 2 other friends and I were also very annoyed about it because she attempted to guilt trip us multiple times about not being able to do the things we were doing & the nasty text we got from her fiancé. One of us feels like maybe we are a h les. Myself & the other friend feel like it isn't fair to try & make us feel guilty. When the other kids found out that her kid did go they were so upset :( that's about the only part I feel guilty about.
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  • Im-A-Tomato-1744 BTW you and your two other friends should treat your kids to a small getaway as a group without the other friend and daughter. "Our kids were so upset they didn't get a holiday too so we decided to make it up to them. Oh it wouldn't have been fair to the poor children if your daughter got two. holidays..."
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply I'll definitely bring it up to them! March break is coming up, we could definitely do it.
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  • Starry SkiesNY Not the AH. The mom who brought the kid along is. She also had some nerve complaining that she had to devote all her time on the trip to her child. What did she expect? Instead of writing you emails to complain the fiancé (and her) should be figuring out how to handle that child for the future. Kids this wilfull at 10 get worse as time goes on if parents don't get a handle on them.
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply This was my argument! What did she expect?? It's her kid, her responsibility. I have no idea what she was expecting. When we go with the kids, we all hang out together & there are multiple people watching the kids. So I'm assuming that's what she wanted, which annoys me even more.
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  • Kenobi-Kryze I think she the daughter) was supposed to stay with her grandmother though. So he wouldn't even be watching her. >Her fiancé was home the entire time & her grandmother was looking forward to watching her granddaughter.
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply Exactly! He drops her off at the grandmother's so she can catch her bus for school & he can go to work. When school is over, she is dropped off at her grandmother's & he picks her up when hes done work. It boils down to the both of them being unable to tell her no.
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  • nmw84pdx NTA. I'm childfree, so is my partner. Even my friends with kids understand the importance of adult time with friends. If one of my friends pulled this, I would not hesitate to send a hearty "FTK" as I laugh my way to the bar. I don't hate children, but I have a sensory processing disorder and my ability to tolerate screaming and unexpected noises and shrill outbursts wanes as I age.
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply Same lol this is why I was so excited for this trip.
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  • FullAd2397 This is the bit I don't understand. Why did they take her out of school? Would that even be allowed?
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply We usually plan these trips for March break so the kids have school off. That's why we planned for the trip for the last two weeks of February because the kids had school, which was fine because there wasn't supposed to be any kids. I thought for sure that would prevent anyone from breaking the "no kids" rule but I guess I was wrong. She brought her anyway & allowed her to miss school.
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  • Imagine letting your kid miss two whole weeks of school because they wanted to go on a vacation to Mexico. She can get away with being this bratty because her mother enables it while neglecting her educational needs. If she wanted to take her daughter to Mexico, she could do it during summer vacation!

  • SilverScimitar 13 NTA, but next time you want to do a trip like this, just choose an adults-only resort. Simple as.
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply We scheduled it on school days lol I thought that would have been enough xD
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  • rancidelle4242 NTA There is no way she got an extra plane ticket a week before this trip especially right beside her. So I think she planned to take her kid the whole time even though she knew it was kid free.
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply Actually I took one for the team here & switched spots with her kid so they could all sit together. I was the one who got shafted & was alone lol
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  • MoodOptimal9891 NTA People get stupid when it comes to their kids. Hopefully, this friend learned a lesson and will make adjustments. Maybe don't write her off just yet on the chance that she will see the light.
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  • Aqutallion Original Poster's Reply I have no intention of writing her off lol the 4 of us have been friends a really long time. I know everyone in here is telling me to cut contact but I just hope, with some space, she can understand how selfish she was being. I sent this reddit post to all 3 of them lol it reassured the 2 friends who didn't bring their kids that we aren't the a h les here & hopefully it teaches the other that what she did was not cool whatsoever.
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