18-year-old forbids 13-year-old sister from coming over to her house after she cut her doll's hair: 'She’s old enough to know right from wrong and this was unforgivable.'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Mar 12, 2026 11:00 AM EDT

If a 3-year-old cuts a doll's hair, you could argue that they didn't know any better. There is no world where a normal 13-year-old doesn't know that it's wrong to damage her sister's property. 

One of the greatest inventions in the history of humankind is the American Girl Doll Hospital. American Girl Doll Hospitals are open at American Girl Doll Stores and provide essential services for dolls who have been put through the wringer. If their owner has never brushed their hair, they can fix it to make it look as good as new. If a little brother has drawn all over the doll with a marker, they can flawlessly remove all signs of damage. It's a wonderful resource because it's free. American Girl Dolls are already expensive enough as is, so it's nice that the company makes sure its customers don't have to spend $100+ on a new doll if one is damaged. 

Let's say you're a mom of a girl whose American Girl Doll was ruined beyond belief by her younger sister. Even if you could take her to the American Girl Doll Hospital and get her spruced up, you would want to make it very clear to your younger daughter that she is never to do anything like that again. It doesn't matter how old she is: she needs to learn sooner rather than later that you cannot ruin other people's things. If she's too young to grasp these concepts, it's best not to leave her in the same room with the American Girl Doll. But if she's old enough to understand, there's no reason she shouldn't be punished for her actions.

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  • The girl in this story is far too old not to know that it's not okay to cut a doll's hair, but she did it anyway and shows no remorse. Worst of all, her parents aren't even willing to punish her: only her older sister has consequences in mind.

  • Am I the bad guy for telling my 13-year-old sister not to come over to my house anymore?

    I (f18) live with my grandfather (m81) and recently got my own car. I had told my sister in a fortnight from now I'll come and pick her up and bring her back here, which was cleared by my mother (f45).
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  • Lately I've found myself interested in hairstyling again (as a hobby) and went to go find my old American girl style doll to braid her hair.
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  • As I picked her up I see a huge chunk or hair missing from the front of her head.
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  • I was livid, this doll sits in the spare room where Lo and behold my sister sleeps when she comes here.
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  • Here's something important you should know, my sister is a known thief of my items. The first thing she took was a stuffed elephant I bought at a thrift store to save for my future children when I have them.
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  • The second, my first ever microphone I bought with my own money (I'm a singer) which I found broken on her desk when I visited last.
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  • This doll was a gift from MY great grandmother and grandfather who are both passed away.
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  • The doll was called named after the English name of my grandmothers name, which means had even more sentiment to it.
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  • This is the straw who broke the camels back. She lives around an hour away which means I can't just go and take the items back she steals.
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  • I sent her a message asking if she had cut the dolls hair and to me and multiple others her answer wasn't acceptable: Me: please be honest with me did you cut the dolls hair?
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  • her: Yeah it was 2 am I had a nightmare I needed something to do. Me: You realise my great grandmother gave me that doll.
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  • If you need something to do you go on TikTok or talk to someone not damage someone else property.
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  • to me she's old enough to know right from wrong and this was unforgivable to me.
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  • I didn't get a sorry or anything and our mother didn't even talk to her about it, she actually in a way condoned her actions.
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  • So am I the a hole for un inviting her to my place because of her sticky fingers?
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  • Rabt_FTS NTA. You should contact the american girl doll store and ask if her hair can be repaired. They have a doll spa for this kinda stuff, I think. Then tell your sister she owes you the amount it costs to repair it properly.
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply Sadly it isn't an American girl just in the style of an American girl :( I'm going to see if I can find a similar hair colour and root some more to fix it but it's sad I have to do that
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  • PAGirl72 Perhaps whatever prompted you to move out is also happening to your sister. She's acting out because something is wrong.
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply I didn't even move out I was forced out, it's a LONG story. Honestly your probably right which is even more sad
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  • w-anchor-emoji NTA that's unhinged
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply My best friend said the same thing
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  • princessmem NTA. She is old enough to know better, and the fact she didnt even apologise, I wouldn't let her over either.
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply She called me later that day to tell me a story about what happened on her walk home from school and when I brought it up with her and asked her to say sorry she 100% didn't mean it
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  • Nemariwa I feel for you. it's not exactly the same but I have a woven stool that was a 5th birthday gift from my great granddad and my grandmother. They made it together from scratch. It was damaged from day to day use by all my family but nothing. malicious. When I left home I researched how to restore it. A friend helped me and I got a great sense of satisfaction from maintaining an object that had meaning to me. The stool is now 35 years old, I still used it almost daily and think of the man
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply Stop I'm tearing up that's beautiful I'll colour match some doll hair and fix it and she may not be perfect but she's mine from two people I love dearly. I'm so glad you were able to fix the stool!
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  • Dittoheadforever You're NTA. Are your parents aware of her behavior? If so, are they addressing it or ignoring it?
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply They're aware and they just keep letting her do this because "she my sister." But that's not an excuse
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  • CompetitionOdd1746 NTAH. She needs to face consequences for her misdeeds or she'll just carry on. It won't bode well for her later in life. Wanton disregard for others feelings and property will alienate her from people. Also, "had a bad dream so l destroyed something of yours" WTAF? How is that an excuse?
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply Oh believe me her response made me even more upset. She's gonna have fun in the real world
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  • Greedy-Minimum-1605 NTA I wouldn't have someone like that in my home. If every time they come over something goes missing or gets broken or vandalized then they don't deserve to be in your home. Set a strong boundary with her and let her know that unless her behavior changes she won't be welcome back. She's more than old enough to know what's she's doing. She is not getting any consequences in her own home so the consequence is she doesn't get to come over. If you do decide to have her over in t
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply Thank you, someone in my life said why don't you just buy another doll but that's not what I'm upset about, it's the action rather then the item (I'll figure out a way to fix the doll) I think a lot of people forget that their actions have consequences
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  • Dittoheadforever That would make them enabling A- Hs. Your sister is in for ahl of a shock when she has to meet real world consequences for her behavior.
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  • idk_617 Original Poster's Reply Oh believe I know
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