Entitled employee eats more than half of the homemade cake his coworker brought for the office: 'When someone brings food in for the office, it's generally meant for the whole office, not just one person.'

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  • A man holding a piece of red, white, and blue cake
  • Am I wrong for calling out a coworker in front of everyone for taking most of my homemade cake?

    I (29M) baked a chocolate layer cake over the weekend and decided to bring it in on Monday just as a nice gesture.
  • I put it on the communal table in the break room with a note that said "help yourself, made this weekend, enjoy!" Nothing fancy, just wanted to do something nice for the office.
  • I went back to my desk and about 40 minutes later went to get a slice for myself.
  • There were maybe three thin slices left out of what had been a full 10 inch cake.
  • I was confused at first because it had only been 40 minutes and there are about 18 people in our office.
  • I asked around casually and two coworkers told me that Marcus had cut himself an enormous portion right away and then came back for more about 20 minutes later.
  • By the time most people came to the break room there was barely anything left. One coworker said she didn't even get to try it. because by the time she went on her break it was basically gone.
  • I'll be honest, something about that just got to me. I spent about three hours on that cake.
  • A metal bowl filled with batter and a whisk
  • I wasn't expecting praise or anything but I did want people to actually get to enjoy it, not have one person take the majority of it before half the office even knew it was there.
  • So when Marcus walked into the break room later that afternoon I said, pretty directly and in front of maybe four other coworkers, "hey just so you know when someone brings food in for the whole office it's generaly meant for the whole office, not just one person." He went very red and didn't say anything.
  • Man holding head in frustration at desk with laptop
  • The other coworkers went quiet. It was awkward for probably 30 seconds and then everyone
  • Marcus hasn't said anything to me directly. I don't think I was wrong because other people genuinely missed out because of him, but now I'm second guessing the public part of it.
  • Now two people have told me separately that I "embarrassed him" and that I should have just spoken to him privately.
  • TL;DR: Brought a homemade cake for the whole office, one coworker took the majority before most people could have any, I called him out in front of colleagues, now people say I embarrassed him and should have been private about it.
  • DiceyPisces Some people have no shame so it's only right to give them some.
  • harrywang6ft seems like the whole office knew who it was so it shouldn't have been a surprise to him.
  • jesuschin It's ok to embarrass people. Don't act the fool and you won't be called out as one People used to have shame but now people like to victim-blame and make you feel bad for getting wronged. F that sh and call out a h_les for acting like Ostracize the h I out of him and don't include him in anything nice. because it's obvious he doesn't care about others
  • ZombiesOmNom Wow the amount of people who clearly don't understand manners. Just because someone works in an office does not preclude them from basic decency ensuring that something brought in for people to SHARE, isn't distributed unevenly to ONE PERSON. Regardless of offices having different "optics" and politics. The person who took over 75% of something brought in for the office to share within less than an hour is the AH here. In addition calling them out in front of the group is a natural
  • No_Tough3666 Ntj. He deserved to be called out. He was very inconsiderate
  • Sea-Adhesiveness9324 I solved that problem by cutting the cake myself into equal portions before serving. I then provide cake serving utensils and NO knife. It may not stop ar de coworker but it helps. No knife also prevents that one who tries to cut in half a portion (badly) and basically butchers the cake.
  • Existing_Proposal655 One 10 inch cake for 18 people? You should presliced it then and put a sign saying one slice per person.
  • Leslind1222 He deserved it! What a greedy thoughtless moron.
  • g3294 Sometimes people need to be embarrassed. Its a social function that corrects abnormal and abhorrent behavior, not only in the one making the faux paus but it is also preventative in nature ensuring others don't repeat the behavior. No, what you did was necessary to prevent further sliding down the scale of acceptable behavior. It seems like a small slight but as more small slights get accepted then more will appear.

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