Graduate gifted late uncle's Rolex, questions if he should trade it in without Aunt knowing

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  • Young man smiles during graduation ceremony..
  • Do I trade in my graduation gift?

    To make a long story short, my uncle and I had a bet when I was a kid that when I graduated college, he would buy me a Rolex.
  • Unfortunately, he passed away about a year before I graduated. My aunt, very sweetly, made good on his promise and surprised me with a Rolex at my graduation.
  • I was obviously over the moon and was very protective over it so I never wore it, I just kept it in its box.
  • I'm getting married in three months though, and want to wear it so it feels like my uncle is there for me.
  • I have realized though, my aunt bought me a woman's sized Rolex. I'm a large man.
  • The watch simply looks dainty and like I'm wearing my mom's jewelry when i wear it.
  • My dilemma is, do i sell/trade this specific watch for a similar one that fits that I could actually wear out?
  • Or do i just keep it in a box as a sentimental gift? Is that morally terrible if I swap that SPECIFIC watch out?
  • It just seems wrong to leave a gorgeous watch to collect dust in my drawer cause it just doesn't fit me.
  • I've considered giving it to my wife, but it also seems weird to not be able to wear the thing my uncle and I always talked about.
  • Any advice welcomel
  • People had some excellent advice for this grad

    totallyfellowhuman If you feel sentimentally towards the watch and feel bad about getting rid of it, take it into a jewelry store and see if they can put a bigger band on it. A lot of watches can have the strap removed and they should be able to give you a more masculine strap for the watch.
  • Interesting! Well, that was worth a try

    Strong-One1451 Original Poster's Reply I tried this initially as well and it somehow made the band look bigger but the watch itself look even daintier unfortunately. Thank you though!!
  • pedanticandpetty If I were marrying someone with this story, I wouldn't want the watch as a wedding gift. A wedding gift should be a thoughtful sentimental gift chosen by the husband. I would also want my husband to have and be able to wear the watch his uncle promised him. So would your aunt. You should talk to her, and trade it in, and have her choose something to get it engraved, and wear the crop out of it.
  • Strong-One1451 Original Poster's Reply Just wanna clarify, wasn't planning to give it to her as a wedding gift, that's coming from, like you said, a thoughtful and sentimental angle. I was just considering giving her the watch to have instead of swapping it out because it fits her better than it does me.
  • Sdavistys We often feel guilty about not wearing/using a gift item. Truth is the gift is now yours to use or not as you see fit. If you elect to sell it take a photo and record the story for yourself. It is firstly a tool meant to be worn & enjoyed. Sitting in its box doesn't accomplish either. Does your fiancée wear a watch? Do you? It's a nice upgrade. If not could the money be used for a honeymoon? Invested?
  • Unlikely Account2244 If your aunt is still living, I would explain the situation and ask her what she thinks your uncle would have wanted. I bet she'll say he would have been so honored to have you wear a Rolex from him on one of the most important days of your life, and to trade it in for something you can wear with remembrance and pride.
  • TheFrozenCanadianGuy I'd ask your aunt about it and I bet she would completely understand
  • DoFr56 Buy you one that fits and matches the one you are giving your wife. Nothing need be said to anyone unless they ask, then the truth! Everyone is home free!
  • Hopeyhart Go to Rolex to see if they can switch out the bands for a larger one. They may have options.
  • Tumblersandra If I was buying this gift for my nephew I could see myself making that mistake and I would 100% want you to exchange the watch for one you could wear. I think the goal is that you have something special that you use and enjoy and think of your uncle. I would ask your aunt but that would be my strong preference.
  • Man checks the time on the Rolex he was gifted.

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