Entitled niece disinvites uncle to her wedding after warning her about HOA policies regarding the extension she built on her house: '27 years of showing up and giving presents, but I’m not allowed at the ceremony'

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  • A bride poses in her wedding dress outside during the daytime.
  • I told you the truth

    My niece has a bad habit of using people, but not paying back her dues. I came around for every birthday, graduation, sports event, housewarming you name for 27 years. Then my niece
  • sends me a 'save the date' for her wedding and two weeks before the wedding she let's me know that I'm welcome at the party at her parents' house on the evening of her wedding.
  • An older male wedding guest shakes hands with another guest during an outdoor ceremony.
  • That's it. 27 years of showing up and giving presents, but I'm not allowed at the ceremony, just allowed to drop off a cash gift at the party in her parents - very - large back yard. They're rich, so it's not about money.
  • My niece recently asked my advice on building an extension to her house, before she bought the house. I knew that wasn't possible because she already had
  • a big extension at the back of the house. There's a rule that only a certain percentage of your back yard may be built on. You see, when she needs me, she contacts me.
  • An older male wedding guest hugs another guest during an outdoor ceremony.
  • So i just said: "You can ask the city council" and left it at that. They ended up buying the house and asking permission to build an extension.
  • It was refused. Now she's mad at me because I didn't warn her.
  • Too bad. Good luck with your € 550.000 house with only one toilet and having to go outside to the garage to do your laundry.
  • An older male wedding guest shakes hands with another guest in a social circle during an outdoor reception.
  • Stainless-S-Rat ⚫ That person would be getting a $5 McDonald's gift certificate for her wedding present.
  • lucky_2_shoes Even if she wanted one of those small intimate weddings where only immediate family comes, if it was me that would include anyone who has been front
  • and center supporting me my whole life, which would be you. Her wedding, her rules, but u get to decide how u much u want to be involved after the wedding.
  • Actions speak louder than words do, so after the wedding, if something happens and this comes up again and she starts apologizing or making excuses, just remember how
  • easy it is to say those things but when it came down to actively showing you how much she cares and appreciates u, she didn't.
  • She has no clue how lucky. she is. There's not one family member of mine who was there for me every single bday, holiday, special events, etc... not even my parents. I would have done
  • anything for anyone in my family to want to be there for me in these ways u described. Maybe, someday she will start to see it herself and come to you in a genuine way to make things
  • right. Until then, I wouldn't say cut all contact but stop with the gifts, advice, etc until she's trying to spend time with u for no other reason but to be with u

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