Boyfriend calls fiancé 'controlling' after he reveals secret credit card debt while planning their wedding: 'He has zero savings and has been carrying credit card debt for years'

Is it 'controlling' to want to address your financial compatibility?

Financial compatibility is huge in a relationship. It's hard to survive without it. Maybe you're not making equal amounts of money, and you have different relationships to it. But money is a huge factor in dating and relationships. You need to create a strong foundation, and money is a part of that. Dating costs money, and you don't want it to cause a burden in anyone's life. Early on, it's best to define how money is going to work in your relationship. At the very least, it should be something you discuss at length before you get married. Marriage, more than anything, is a combining of assets. It's coming together to combine your funds, and that can get pretty messy pretty quickly if you're not careful. Especially if you're the one who has your financial act together. 

That's what happened in this story, where a man revealed his financial history way too late. He was assuming that his fiancée would be okay with it, but she wasn't. Which would be clear to anyone who wasn't this guy. Nobody wants information withheld from them, especially from the people who are closest to them. Nobody wants to be deceived, but that's exactly what ended up happening here. If The Drama taught us anything, it's not to reveal key pieces of information about ourselves right before a wedding. The added pressure of a big, expensive event makes everything feel a little bigger. 

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