Entitled 50-year-old couple expects neighbor to mow their lawn for free because he did so for their 90-year-old parents: 'It feels like I'm doing free labor.'

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  • Man in green t-shirt and black pants holding black and brown shovel
  • My entitled middle-aged neighbors want me to maintain their lawn for free because that's what I did for their elderly parents.

    I regularly cut my neighbours grass (a 2 acre meadow that adjoins our garden)
  • I began because my neighbours are/were a very elderly couple (in their 90s) and could no longer physically do it themselves and we would help them with lots of other small jobs around the house too.
  • A couple of people walking across a lush green field
  • One (more selfish) reason I also started doing it is because they have an awesome mini-tractor to do the job and I wanted to have a go on it! The old man who lived there showed me how to operate it, let me know all
  • its quirks, since then I have fixed it up, repaired and maintained it for them the past few years. It was in pretty bad condition, but now completely usable and quite valuable.
  • However last year the old man dd, and Christmas time his wife became too frail to look after herself so she has moved out and into her daughters home.
  • My neighbours children (actually in their late 50s/ early 60s!) have hired cleaners and gardeners to maintain the house and the more manicured bits of garden, but nobody to keep their meadow in check. I wasn't sure what
  • they would be doing about it, but they eventually asked me to mow it as it was getting out of control. I said yes without hesitation as that's what - id been doing for years -
  • but I found that when I actually did the job - it no longer feels like i'm doing my elderly neighbour a favour, It feels like im doing free labour for people I don't really know. I didn't get the
  • warm fuzzy feelings, I felt a bit used - but there is obviously an expectation on their side that I will just carry on doing it.
  • So I tried to make it more appealing (on my side) by suggesting some ways they could pay me back for doing it without it really costing them anything. My neighbour had numerous broken ride on mowers in his
  • barn, I suggested Id keep mowing in exchange for them selling me one of the mowers so I could fix it up as a project - not giving for free - but selling at a fair price.
  • Neighbours kid said no (which is fine), but what really did annoy me, is they suggested I could still fix up one of the broken mowers as a project and get it going so I could enjoy my hobby of fixing things - but they wouldn't sell it to
  • Red tractor on green grass field during daytime
  • me, instead they would give it to their son for him to use. Then everyone wins - I get to tinker with mechanical things - they get a functioning mower! And I'm still welcome to tinker with the tractor any time I want as long as i cut the grass of the
  • meadow. At this point, I've decided that I'm not going to help them anymore. They'll have to hire someone to do it.
  • Cocoa Almonds Rock Yeah, I think you're making the right choice. But you might want to have the conversation with them. They may not realize why you were helping your neighbor and that it feels like unpaid labor for strangers now. They likely written a different story in their head, and they think you want to do this or enjoy doing it.
  • sugarmistbelle You were helping elderly neighbors and now you're just maintaining property for grown adults who don't wanna pay someone. You're just right on making the right call, once the for starts and gets abused, it's over.
  • Hot-Explanation-5751 Users and abusers. There's a reason you had to step up to help your elderly neighbours, the (adult) kids wanted none of the responsibility of looking after them. Unfortunately though, those ride on mowers will be neglected beyond repair. You can't expect people that treat their family like that to have any care for anything that doesn't directly affect them.
  • MarlenaEvans Uh, yeah, don't help them anymore. They have some serious audacity. "Fix this for my kid for free so you get to use your fun hobby of fixing things and then we benefit without doing anything at all, won't that be fun?'
  • Corfiz74 Honestly, if someone had been doing that for my parents, I'd have probably gifted them the ride-on lawn- mower as a thank you. If they had then continued to mow the meadow for me for free, I'd have been delighted. These people sound cheap.
  • MzSea Just stop. They are not their sweet parents.

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