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Oftentimes, people think their own lives are more important than others, and that's never more true than when it comes to family. As a fieldworking expert on family drama, I've found myself in a fair share of pickles over miscommunicated plans, arrogant holiday disputes, and family entitlement. As a people pleaser, I'm often on the losing side, accepting everyone else's demands to keep the peace, but this woman, a hero really, displayed a sense of self propriety that I could only ever dream of.
She refused to be walked on like the family doormat.
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Female model waiting at the train station and answering a phone call.
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AITAH for not wanting to cancel my vacation for people I don’t really know?
Me and my husband are going on a trip to visit my best friend for her graduation. This trip had been planned for MONTHS.
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My in laws (husband’s mothers side) planned a trip to visit my husbands dad, brothers, dad’s wife (not husbands mom) and expressed wanting us visit with our kids as well. The problem is, the dates overlap terribly. We leave the 14th and aren’t back until early morning the 23rd and they visit in the middle of that trip.
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Model family traveling by car and packing their bags.
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The in-laws planned their trip far after she had booked her non-refundable flights, so she prioritized her existing plan over their demands. Her dearest friend was graduating, and she had already promised to be there to support her. Not only that, but her husband and kids would be there to support their auntie as well. For some reason, the grandparents didn't see this as a celebration-worthy moment and tried to force her to cancel, but without control over the university's scheduling (obviously), the daughter-in-law chose what suited her best: her planned vacation.
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They were upset, which I completely understood, and we moved on, or so I thought.
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A couple days later my MIL (husbands mom) adds my husband, herself and I into a group chat and sends SEVERAL paragraphs about how upset she and her parents are that her parents can’t see us and the kids and begged us to cancel all together or reschedule to be with her family.
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The thing is, it’s a graduation. I can’t just cancel or reschedule it, and it’s going to happen without me there or not, but this means so much to me.
For starters, of course, my best friend is graduating and I’m so proud of her. On top of all that, I’ve been working privately with her mom to plan this surprise trip and a party, even got a second job and started putting in close to 70 hours a week at work specifically FOR this trip, and don’t even actually know her parents.
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Female model waiting at the train station.
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We’ve had conversations over the phone that’s lasted about 5 minutes, surface level conversation, usually surrounding my kids, but nothing more than that.
They send gifts for holidays, cards, money every one in a while, but I can’t cancel this trip.
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I’ve even tried working with them and going out of my comfort zone by bringing up the idea of my family members whose babysitting drive TWO HOURS so they can see the kids, but they refuse.
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Recently, my husband got a text from his mother, yet another ragey paragraph about how we hate her and his father (we eloped bc his dad didn’t like the idea of marriage) and that she didn’t know what they did wrong.
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They keep messaging him and bothering him about canceling and the trip and blah blah blah.. I’m over it, and honestly, this is why I wanted to keep the trip (and our marriage) a secret from his family. It’s always something.
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I love his family, I really do and his grandparents are nice people, I just don’t understand why they think we’re going to be okay with looking out in $500 in non refundable tickets.. we’re already on a tight budget as is.
Yes, of course, the new job provides good income at the moment and we aren’t struggling, losing $500 definitely isn’t within our budget.
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