Woman ghosted her friend for 2 years after ruining their girls' trip with her boyfriend and 9 of his friends, calls out of nowhere to announce her engagement and inform the friend she’s bridesmaid

Etai Eshet • Editor

Jun 15, 2026 4:30 PM EDT

Getting voluntold to do anything is annoying. Getting voluntold into a bridesmaid role sounds annoying even under normal circumstances. Getting voluntold by someone who ghosted you for two years, whose first contact in all that time was not an apology or even a hello but a wedding announcement and an immediate job assignment, is a completely different situation that requires a moment to fully appreciate.

The girls trip story is what makes the whole thing so rich. This was not a casual hangout that went slightly sideways. It was months of planning, the kind of trip you actually look forward to, and it got quietly converted into a boys holiday without any real conversation about it. One boyfriend became ten men and suddenly the carefully planned girls trip was just a large group vacation she had nothing to do with organizing and no real place in. Two people plan a trip together and one of them ends up third-wheeling a group she never invited. That sounds a lot more like a hostile takeover than a misunderstanding

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Two years of nothing. No reaching out, no acknowledgment, no attempt to address what happened. Just silence until the ring went on and suddenly the phone works again and there are roles to fill.
The funniest part of being voluntold into a wedding party is the assumption embedded in it. It skips the entire conversation where you find out if the friendship is even still intact, if the other person is available, if they want to participate, if they have the budget for it, any of it. It lands directly at you will be there, you will buy the dress, you will attend every event, and you will look happy about it. The person doing the voluntelling gets to feel like they honored the friendship by including you. The person being voluntold gets to figure out on their own how to respond to being drafted.
Hyping her up in the moment instead of addressing any of it is extremely human and also just delayed the problem by a few weeks. At some point the dress conversation is going to come up and that is going to be a much harder call to navigate than the first one was.