Stepsister Asks Stepbrother to Take Eggs off the Menu at His Destination Wedding Because She is Allergic

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Jun 15, 2026 8:30 PM EDT

Why wouldn't he make accommodations for his own sister?

Allergies are not to be messed with, especially severe ones. One time when I was working as a cashier at a Chinese restaurant, a dude called in to order for pickup and said his wife was highly allergic to soy. He asked us to please make sure there was no soy in the meal because she would have to go to the ER if she consumed any. I put "Soy Allergy" on the order like 10 times because he was so urgent about it. An hour later, we got a call saying that she had broken out in hives and was going to the ER because of our negligence. That is probably in the top 2 worst things I've ever done, but there are two obvious scapegoats. The people working in the kitchen should have said that it was impossible to make food at our restaurant that hadn't been cross-contaminated with soy. Also, what kind of person with a severe soy allergy orders thinks that ordering from a seedy Chinese restaurant is a good idea? Honestly, I just hope that woman is okay and that she never has another allergic reaction as long as she lives. 

People with allergies are often hyper-aware of them, and try to make sure at every juncture that they don't inadvertently harm themselves with food. That can be difficult when the thing you're allergic to is in so many different meals. The woman in this story is allergic to eggs, and for some reason, her stepbrother thought it would be a good idea to serve eggs at his wedding.

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  • Am I the bad guy for asking my stepbrother to take eggs of the menu at his own wedding?

    My step brother and his fiancée are getting married soon. It is a destination wedding, the destination is very hot.
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  • For some background my step brother and his fiancée met at the gym about 7 years ago. Didn't start going out till about a year into their friendship and finally tied the knot
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  • last summer. They met through a mutual love for the gym and with that comes a mutual love for protein. Here the problem, I am allergic to a majority of animal protein
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  • (seafood and eggs mostly) I am also a little bit of a picky eater but I believe that is my own problem so I don't let it effect other people (in everyday situations obviously)
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  • Now I have known my step brother since he was 4. I obviously lived with him for many years, baby sat him, drove him everywhere (I am 7 years older than him). We see
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  • eachother as if we are blod related. For his wedding I have done a lot of planning with them because I had a wedding myself so I know how it goes. For their
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  • destination they chose a beach and the wedding will start before sunrise. So they can have the sun rise while the ceremony happens. It's super cute!!
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  • I looked at the menu and there will be literally nothing I can eat. For breakfast eggs Benedict on some sort of potato patty with either herbs or mushrooms on top. There
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  • will also be a seafood bar throughout the day. And course an alc.ic beverage bar. They hired. a caterer to do all this and the request for substitutions I have to go
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  • through my step brother first (which is a no brainer and I have nothing against that). When I found out the plans for the food I asked if I could have a
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  • substitute meal he said no, I offered to pay for it he said no because "I would just feel so guilty if I made you pay for your own meal at my wedding" or something like that.
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  • Tbh I'd rather pay for my own food than di . There are no fast food places around. My hotel doesn't start serving food till 8 and I'll be at the wedding still. I don't and literally
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  • The stepsister, who is still at the wedding when the food service at her hotel begins.
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    A model representing the stepsister, who is still at the wedding when the food service at her hotel begins. 

  • can't go the whole day without food because I am literally dis ed. I have a connective tissue disorder there are a lot of symptoms that come with it and I need to eat or
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  • else I could get very sick and irritable. I understand why he might be upset by me asking for my own meal because growing up I was
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  • really really picky with my food. But now I try my best to eat what I can. Eggs give me a rash and the sh_s. Seafood gives me anaphylaxis, but only when I eat it so I can still
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  • touch it and be fine, it's a kind of mild allergy but I can still di if left untreated. Having an alternative or just replacing the eggs with something else
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  • would make my life so much easier. My husband is on my side obviously but the rest of my family while still concerned about my allergies thinks I should just s k it up. So
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  • AITAH for asking my step brother to take eggs of the menu at his own wedding?
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  • Edit: there are hors d'oeuvres at the wedding that do not have seafood in them. My options are pickles and spinach dip with crackers, there's also cream cheese.
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  • What would you do if you were the brother? Would you concede to her request or let her buy/bring her own food for the wedding?

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