17-year-old boyfriend wonders if its okay to not want his same age girlfriend to go to a girls night out: 'I was unable to go to the girls night because I was a boy'

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  A picture representing the girls on their night out

• The fact that he takes the girl teasing him for not being able to go out on girls' night so personally is such a red flag for me. I know this is all affected by the fact that he is only seventeen, but I can’t unsee it. It’s the classical victim maneuver; he feels attacked and insecure by something tiny and playful and makes it everyone else’s problem. I can see that he doesn’t have the capacity or the maturity to see it yet, but that would definitely be the point I would fixate on.

  If he could step out of his insecurities for a bit and see that there is nothing negative that can come out of his girlfriend going out with her friends, he would understand that his ego is not the most important thing in order to keep the relationship alive. It’s normal to get caught up in those things, though, and once we realize, it’s typically too late, and that’s how we learn from our mistakes.

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  A visual representation of the girls coming back from their night out independently if the boyfriend approves of it or not

• I’m sorry, but I do have to say he is the bad apple in this situation. Let’s just normalize that we’re all the bad apples at some point in our lives. Sometimes, insecurities are better handled by asking questions instead of just assuming things and sulking. We’re all too fragile at 17, you couldn’t pay me enough to go back!

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