Woman wonders if a friendship is really worth keeping after she is forced to initiate every encounter or text exchange between them: 'I don’t think she’s lying to me but I’m finding it really hard to believe what she says when she’s then just so passive'

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  Two models representing the friends contemplating their cloudy future

• Is it ever worth keeping these friendships?

  
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  A photo representing the woman iniciating every conversation with the friend

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  I think friendships run with the advantage that we don’t put so much societal pressure on them. One can stop talking to a friend for years and then rekindle the friendship like no time has passed. It becomes really useful to cultivate the talent of knowing when the time is right to stop forcing it and just let life take its course. A person can say whatever, and this happens in partnerships as well. They can say they love us, that they want to see us every day, that we mean the world to them, but if, in reality, that never shows itself through actions, we should take it at face value. I’m not saying she should break up with her friend or explain things in a long text message. I’m saying she should come to terms with the fact that if she doesn’t initiate things, nobody will, at least for now, and that if she is tired of doing the initiating, she should stop and let life run its course.

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  A picture of a woman looking at the horizon, representing the woman leaving her friend behind

• The fact that she is doubting so much is what inclines me in favour of ceasing to insist. We should let things that want to leave, leave. Maybe later, the friend has more availability and starts thinking of her more often,  and if she is still available, then they can reconnect, but for now, it’s only a painful scenario. I don’t even think the ‘passive’ friend necessarily has something against her, maybe she is just busy with another stuff, or maybe yes, there is an element of unrequited friendship, but if that’s the case, the other friend would still benefit of letting her go, because if she never does come back, she will be so caught up with her own life, that will soften the blow. So yes, another lesson about letting go, guys! Life keeps telling us that! Or is it just me?

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