Woman abruptly breaks up with boyfriend over ambivalent situation and then wonders whether she overreacted: ‘I said I’m upset either way, leave, and break up with him, saying that if I did the same he would probably be jealous too’

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jul 23, 2026 8:00 AM EDT

Spider-sense or nonsense?

Look, I'm not here to question a woman's intuition. Sometimes we know more than we think we know, and when we tell our friends or on Reddit our anecdotal evidence, it comes off as insufficient. To me, this situation could very well be an example of a girl's spider-sense and not an exaggeration, but even if that's the case, I think she went wrong in how she addressed her concerns, or unaddressed them, really. Maybe there's something else she isn't telling us, more clues that she felt all summed up to that moment. Either way, something definitely smells rotten within this relationship.

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    The couple breaking up without communicating first

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  • AIO for breaking up over my boyfriend for this?

    We were both invited to go to a bar at night with one of his female friends. There was going to be a group there. I work earlier in the mornings and they were all
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  • going to plan to leave around 9:30. When my boyfriend told me about the invite for us, I told him "yikes that's pretty late" but he never straight up
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  • asked if I wanted to go. He assumed what I said meant I didn't want to. He then said "yeah I'm not sure if I want to go or not. It's super late and might
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  • want to stay home". All throughout the night he was unsure, when I would ask him, he was unsure and wouldn't tell me a yes or no. Eventually he pulled.
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  • clothes out and was saying he has his clothing out just in case he decides to go. Eventually it reached. around 11pm. We both shower and I'm in bed. The
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  • lights are off but we're talking and he starts putting his pants on. I ask "what are you doing?" And he says "I'm just gonna go for an hour to catch up
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  • with them". I felt something was super off and like he was waiting for me to sleep so he could sneak out. I leave the room and gather my things. He didn't
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  • leave, I asked why and he said that he can see that it upset me that he was going to leave so instead he's going to stay. I said I'm upset either way, leave,
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  • and break up with him, saying that if i did the same he would probably be jealous too. AIO? My friends are saying that the proportion I am angry
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  • doesn't fit with what happened and that breaking up was going too far, especially that he stayed after he could see I was upset.
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  • Fun-War6684 Lots of perceived thoughts and feelings here but no actual communication.
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  • AdAvailable2508 Feels a bit off to me too. He knew he was gonna go and for some reason didn't want you there.
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  • Specialist-Ad5796 YOR Break up instead of a conversation. Maybe he's better off with someone who communicates.
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  • I kinda identify with the boyfriend because I find it truly impossible to decide whether I want to go out. I often put on my pajamas, go to bed, and then regret it and start getting ready to go out. And in my case, there isn’t anything fishy going on; I just find it very hard to decide between the pleasure of staying in or the pleasure of going out, lol. The worst is when I get fully ready to go out, make up and everything, and when I’m about to go out the door, I realize I don’t even want to go and hear loud music coming from everywhere, and also I’m kinda sleepy. Knowing I can still take my decision back relieves me, but taking off my makeup is a nightmare; sometimes I truly can’t believe I have to go through all of that to really feel whether I want to go out or not. Some of us are wired differently, lol. I want to give the benefit of the doubt to this girlfriend because she might have sensed there was something more than that going on in this case, but breaking up in the spot doesn’t solve anything, plus he had offered to stay. Maybe she should confront him and have a serious conversation? I’m a fan of conversations, really; even if in the long run she leaves him, it’s just nicer to leave without anything left to say.

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