Woman refuses to allow roomie to work in the same restaurant as her: 'I want to take the job is because we just spent the last six hours after I worked eight hours trying to come up with the rest of the money needed that you were supposed to make’

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jul 24, 2026 8:00 AM EDT

Peculiar friendship boundaries

This is by far the weirdest fight I've ever heard in a roommate situation, so much so that I started creating theories in my mind to determine why I don't think this friend is being truthful about her motives to keep her friend outside her workplace. Even if we give her the benefit of the doubt, all the problems she presents are solvable, so why not try that? I don't think she is in a position to discuss much, but let's see.

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    The restaurant's new worker

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  • AITA for taking a job at the same restaurant as my roommate/best friend after she asked me not to?

    kids never tidy up after themselves, they leave wrappers everywhere, they yell and scream to get their own way. My 6 year old nephew poured milk on my mums carpet the other
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  • The Situation My best friend and roommate recently got hired at a sushi restaurant. Yesterday, she was three hours late to her orientation. I ended up driving her there, and while I was talking to the owner, I
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  • realized I already knew him from social circles (parties/clubs). The owner assumed I was there to apply as well and offered me a position as a server/bartender. I have been actively looking for part-time work, so I
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  • decided to accept the position. The Conflict The next day, my roommate told me she doesn't want me working there. Her reasoning is that she is afraid I will make fun of her or call her a
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  • "weirdo" in front of our coworkers. We have a long-standing "roast-heavy" dynamic where we tease each other constantly. She frequently does bizarre things intentionally (like barking, meowing, or intentionally
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  • on me in public) and I will call her a "weirdo" or tease her for it. I assured her that I am perfectly capable of keeping things strictly professional, and I suggested that since we live together, we could
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  • simply pretend we don't know each other while on the clock to avoid any awkwardness. Despite my reassurances, she is adamant that I shouldn't work there. I told her I am going to move forward with the job
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  • anyway because I need the income and the opportunity happened naturally. She is now very upset with me and thinks I'm being a bad friend. The Question Am I the a hole for taking the job despite her explicit
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  • request? Update / more info on our friendship: we have been friends for 6 years and have lived together for 3 years and just signed a new lease for a year for a different house. She
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  • doesn't have a car. I take her everywhere with my gas money. Yesterday, I talked to her more about the situation and why she doesn't want me there and why I want to work there. She said she feels like me ignoring her or not talking
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  • man and woman lying on bed eating pizza
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    The roomies before the restaurant incident happened

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  • Look, if he needs the job urgently and can’t get it elsewhere, it’s not something she has a say in. Matters like jobs and income are very sensitive and definitely not something to be nitpicky about. We do not know this information, and I would only side with her if he really didn’t need the job and took it either way. Still, the reasons she is giving to forbid him to take the job are weird, and the solutions he provided are even weirder. There’s obviously a middle ground between not bullying each other and pretending they are complete strangers. I don’t understand this relationship, lol.

  • to her will make it more awkward because she feels like the service industry is like having another family. She then explained to me that she did not have the full amount needed for her portion of the deposit, so
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  • we spent the remaining of the evening driving around in my car doing DoorDash orders to come up with the money needed to be able to pick up keys for our new house that we were supposed to move into yesterday, which we did
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  • not move into at the end of the night around 1 AM after we got back home, I said the reason I want to take the job is because we
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  • just spent the last six hours after I worked eight hours trying to come up with the rest of the money needed that you were supposed to make.
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    Meanwhile: the sushi they serve

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  • Where the guy seems to tip the balance in his favour is when he says she owes him money and he is working extra to cover for her; that’s where his friend should draw the line of her demands. As I always say, they’ll have to solve this by speaking to each other! When did this become so unusual?



     

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