Married couple of 8 years get offended when their single friend refuses to ask them for dating advice and goes to another single friend instead: ‘Their relationship is not one that I would want for myself’

Do you ask your married friends or single friends for dating advice? 

Either of them can help in different circumstances, so it depends on who you trust the most, and if your friends' marriage is actually successful.

A young woman shared on r/AITAH that she doesn't really trust her married friends to ask them for dating advice. The couple has been together for eight years. They met in high school and never dated anyone else. That is not a bad thing in and of itself, but they don't seem to have the healthiest of relationships. Besides, they've been together since they were teenagers and have no idea what it's like to date when you're an adult. That was this woman's reasoning, but she didn't want to say it to their face because she thought it might be hurtful. Instead, she went ahead and asked a different friend. When the couple found out, they felt offended and insisted that she tell them why she hadn't asked them. She finally did, and they got even more offended. 

The thing is, each and every one of us has the right to ask for advice from whomever we deem worthy of giving it. A person who hasn't been on a date since the early to mid 2000s has no idea what the dating world has become now and what it has to offer. Besides, if one wants to get married and enjoy a healthy relationship with a spouse, we most likely won't take advice from people who don't seem to be happy together or even respect one another. 

No one should give unwanted advice over a matter that is none of their business and haven't been consulted about. Even between friends, there are boundaries we all respect and that allow us to maintain a nice, healthy bond with the people we love. When we are asked for advice, we give it happily. When a friend chooses to go to somebody else, we respect their decision and support them the best we can.