Sister changes Thanksgiving dinner date despite brother's work commitments, gets furious when he refuses to cancel his family vacation: ‘I already have my paid days off set up’

By now, we have seen our own families work around dates to schedule holiday dinners, and we understand that's complicated, especially when everyone wants to attend despite different work schedules. Some family members have standard office hours and more flexibility in choosing dates, while others work weekends and holidays, so they need extra consideration. If someone has already requested paid time off and has an organized vacation that can't and won't change, choosing when to host Thanksgiving dinner isn't much of a discussion: they already set a Saturday, and everyone was happy with it. So why does the sister have to come and change everything? The main point of holidays isn't really WHEN we get together, but the fact that we're together celebrating! 

Here, we can see a difference between asking someone to see if they can change their schedule and expecting them to do it. And the worst part? The worst part is how the sister reacted when he said his family wouldn't be attending. It's not like they don't want to attend; it's just that they're the only ones who live 2 hours away, and by the time they could arrive, dinner would be over. That's more than enough reason to stick with the already set date and have Thanksgiving dinner. The sister won't gain anything by blaming his sister-in-law for keeping him from their family and accusing him of not caring about their father. Compromises have to come from both sides, especially during these special seasons. We all want to feel loved and appreciated, so being flexible and working around everyone is a fundamental part of every holiday. That way, we can keep our relationships safe and sound and still have a good time overall. 

Let's use this as an example of what to avoid for our own families and this Holiday season. Keep family traditions close, and respect everyone's time and work schedules. That's the best way to show we care.