Picky Husband Makes House Hunting Difficult Task, Gets Called Out, Complains

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mattstaff
May 14, 2021 11:00 AM EDT

The process of trying to secure a home with your partner can be an exciting, fulfilling, and nerve-wracking experience. With that being said, the last thing that you want to find yourself dealing with is an irrationally picky partner who seems like they're able to find something wrong with every option that comes across the table. It's all about meeting in the middle, and it sounds like this husband was ready to do nothing of the sort. And then when he gets called out for his antics, he complains that he's not in the wrong at all. 

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    Font - 1 3 2 2 AITA for telling my fiancé it's his fault we can't find a house to buy? Not the A-hole So my fiancé and I are looking to buy a home. We have a small farm, so we are looking for a home with a couple acres on it. We got approved for a good loan. However, most places in our price range that have land are older homes that need a little TLC. Most of them it is nothing major, that paint can't fix or a little trip to a hardware store. However, my fiancé is being super picky about this. W
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    Font - However, my fiancé said he didn't like the color the house. Literally the color the house was. So I kept looking. However, a few days later he finally agreed to the other house but it had already sold. It has been like that the past few houses l've found. He finds one little thing he doesn't like about it, says no, a few days later changes his mind, but it's already sold. He keeps complaining that we cannot find anything. I finally just told him he's the reason we cant find anything becau
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    Rectangle - He called me an asshole for saying it's entirely his fault we're having so much trouble. I feel bad I hurt his feelings, but I was just being honest. AITA here? 4 5.4k 3 453 ↑, Share
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    Font - one_simon · 23h Partassipant [3] NTA Your Finance gets cold feet every time he has to decide to commit. Simple Commitment Issue i believe. But maybe that's just unintentional, I wouldn't directly assume he has issues with commiting to a house (and you?), but very likely feels like this subconciously. I'd talk to him about this and why he, even if non intentional, tries to not find a house. Because at this point it really doesn't seem like there are any actual issues, just things he tries
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    Rectangle - kittabotamous · 23h Partassipant [2] NTA but l'd ask him to reflect on what's making him hesitate. Sounds like he's anxious for some reason and maybe sabotaging unconsciously. G Reply 147 3 ...
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    Font - I finally just told him he's the reason we cant find anything because he's being way too picky and by the time he finally agrees, the house is off the market. Or has risen 10% since last week. Buyers remorse before the sale. Good luck. G Reply 4 20 3 ...
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    Font - ha_look_at_that_nerd · 22h This doesn't perfectly describe your situation (and it isn't judgement, just a reference), but l'm going to say it anyways: Craig and Stacia are looking for a two-story A-frame that's near Craig's job in the downtown, but also satisfies Stacia's need to be near the beach which is nowhere near Craig's job! With three children and nine on the way, and a max budget of $7... let's see what Lori Jo can do on this week's episode of "You Don't Deserve A Beach House." O
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    Font - Sleepy-Blonde · 23h NTA. Is there a bigger reason for why he is saying "no" to these houses other than simple reasons like color? Maybe he doesn't really want to move? Does he not understand how quickly houses are selling? G Reply 52 3 framingfaces OP · 23h He says he understands how quick you have to be. He is actually the one who proposed buying a house (we currently rent). So if he has changed his mind, he has not let me know. 4 38 3 ...
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    Rectangle - slydog4100 · 23h Asshole Aficionado [16] NTA Just because the truth is painful doesn't mean its not the truth. Its a sellers market right now so any hesitation is going to cause problems. Hesitation over something that is 100% aesthetic is just silly. G Reply 仓5 ...
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    Handwriting - [deleted] • 23h NTA - small cosmetic issues shouldn't come between you and a new home. He needs to lower expectations and understand that paint can easily be redone. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - BoyAlwaysInTheBuff · 21h NTA. Are you sure he really wants to buy a house? I mean seriously, who gives up on the otherwise perfect house because they don't "like" the color? I mean, really? G Reply ...
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    Font - Usual-Archer-916 · 18h DO NOT BUY A HOUSE TILL YOU ARE MARRIED- -SIGNED, A REAL ESTATE BROKER G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - NODuckingWay · 16h Partassipant [1] NTA. You're right and he's being picky. Paint is one of the easiest things to change. G Reply ...
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    Font - NTA Well, it is his fault if you agreed to more than one house and this repeated. G Reply ...
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    Font - vegetaBalls · 18h NTA but seems like he's not ready to buy a house with you G Reply ...
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    Font - jalyynx • 11h NTA-l'd upgrade your fiancé in addition to your farm. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - rtmfb · 11h Partassipant [2] NTA. When he finds out paint exists, it's going to blow his mind. G Reply 2 3 ....
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    Rectangle - NeonBlueConsulting · 16h NAH. I'd be picky too when spending thst kind of money. You do want to make sure you get what you want. The downside is that it is a sellers market so homes are going fast. G Reply
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