Toxic Bride Repeatedly Tells Friend That Her Boyfriend Is Far Too Good For Her

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Mayarey
Jun 24, 2021 1:30 PM EDT

Best friends are usually there to provide advice and guidance to us throughout our hard times. They're also one of the only people who will be brutally honest with us when everybody else subtly sugar-coats stuff. But whichever role they take, they're meant to have our best interests at heart. Having a toxic best friend is no different than having a toxic boyfriend, the red flags can be really hard to see in either situation. Sometimes something major has to take place in order for you to finally see them for the sh*tty person they are. Better late than never we suppose...

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    Handwriting - r/AmItheAsshole Posted by u/notreallyadoubledate 15 hours ago 13.4k 18 15 3 22 44 AITA for telling my friend I don't want to be her bridesmaid anymore?
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    It was Reddit user u/notreallyadoubledate who asked the 'Am I The A-Hole' community if she was the one in the wrong when she told her friend that she had no interest in being her bridesmaid anymore.

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    Font - My friend, "Mary," and I have known each other since we were children. We've grown apart over the past few years, but she still considers me important enough to make me a bridesmaid. Her wedding is set to be in 3 weeks.
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    She begins by providing some much-needed background on her relationship with her friend 'Mary.' They've been friends since they were younger. Doesn't it seem like it's always the friends from childhood who end up being the most toxic?

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    Font - One reason why I sort of distanced myself from her was because of her treatment of my relationship. My boyfriend, "Jack," and I have been together for 3 and ½ %3D years. He's a wonderful person, and there is no doubt in my mind that this is the man I want to marry, but Mary is under the impression that Jack is "too good for me"
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    Font - Jack comes from a very wealthy background. His parents are certainly very wealthy; he was practically guaranteed a lavish life from the moment that he left the womb. This is in stark contrast to my childhood; I grew up in a low income neighbourhood, often wondering where my next meal was, or how I was gonna help pay the bills at a young age etc.
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    Font - I'm grateful and proud for where I am today. Jack is considered to be "conventionally attractive," always looking like he should be on some magazine or billboard somewhere.
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    Font - Jack's good looks and background have led Mary to believe that "Jack deserves better than me," as, according to her, "There's no way I could have pulled someone so attractive and rich." It's pretty disheartening to hear those things constantly and it does kind of take a toll on you (and the friendship.) Whenever Jack is around, she's quite polite and respectful, never once making those comments. Eventually, the comments stopped.
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    Font - Mary invited me for lunch with her fiancé and his friend, "Gary." From the moment I arrived, Mary and her fiancé were consumed in their own conversation, paying no attention to the both of us. It was fine, as Gary seemed to be a great lad with great chat. He asked me why I was single, and I toldto him that I was in a happy committed relationship.
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    Font - He was very taken aback by my answer. He told me that Mary had set up a blind, double-date of sorts for the both of us. I was very confused (and slightly angry) I didn't want to be confrontational at lunch (especially in public) so I just carried on with the lunch. Luckily Gary wasn't upset and ended up making a few jokes about the whole ordeal.
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    Font - I called Mary later on in the day and asked her a ton of questions about why she thought it was okay to do that. At first she tried to deny it, but then she tried to justify it by saying that "Gary is a man who's more in my league," and since he was also a groomsmen, "We needed to 'get to know each other' better,"
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    Font - I was shocked by her bluntness, so I just told her that I didn't want to be her bridesmaid anymore. Granted, it was a pretty impulsive decision, but I still stand by it. Mary didn't take it well; trying to apologise and saying that it was a mistake. It's been a few days and her fiancé has been texting me, asking me to suck it up for the wedding. I feel petty and conflicted right now.
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    Font - EDIT: Jack knows about the "date." I wouldn't keep that from him haha. 97% Upvoted 1.1k Comments +| Award Share •..
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    Font - awickfield · 15h 23 & 7 More Asshole Enthusiast [7] You are so absolutely NTA and you should have dumped this "friend" the minute she told you Jack was too good for you. Don't let her change your mind. 17.3k Reply Share •..
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    Rectangle - SaWheatGrass · 15h Partassipant [1] This. NTA. She sounds kind of jealous tbh. But this conniving behavior is insane. Be sure to block anymore flying monkeys coming your way about, "just suck it up for the wedding" 10.2k Reply Share •..
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    Font - Unit-Healthy · 15h Certified Proctologist [28] NTA. Mary is in love with Jack, is jealous of you, and wants to break you up. Skip the wedding and skip the friendship. Maybe stay friends with Gary; he sounds ok.
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    Font - EdieArbyIsntReal · 13h Partassipant [1] I'm glad I'm not the only one who got strong "Mary is in love with Jack" vibes - all the more so that this was right before her own wedding. Feels like a final, deluded Hail-Mary to me. 83 3 Reply Share •..
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