Boyfriend Expects Girlfriend To Contribute $200 To His Bud's Wedding Gift

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Jul 16, 2021 4:00 PM EDT

It sounds like this guy is in dire need of taking a moment to reassess his expectations of what constitutes a reasonable wedding gift. Or rather, what his girlfriend should contribute. They're clearly in the early stages of their relationship, and he's already out there waving some red flags. Naturally, the moral judges of Reddit's AITA community were in agreement that he was just a tad bit out of line. For another ridiculous post from the realm of wedding gossip, check out this post about a craigslist ad seeking a date for a Karen mother-in-law. 

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for not wanting to spend $200 on a wedding gift as a plus-one who has met the groom briefly only 2 times and never even met the bride? Not the A-hole My boyfriend just found out today he was invited to a close friend's wedding. He called me up and opened the conversation with the fact that he would like to bring me along, but that he is giving $200 cash and hopes I will be able to contribute another $200 since this is a close friend of his. I immediately stated this is too much money
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    Font - I think it's really cheesy and tacky to invite me as a plus-one and expect me to shell out an equal amount when l've only met this guy 2 times. I admittedly haven't been to many weddings either, but when I looked online I saw many articles say that the plus-one shouldn't even be obligated to pay at all, and l'm already offering $100-150, plus I will have to buy or rent a dress for the occasion. Btw, I live in Canada if this changes anything. AITA? 2.3k 358 ↑, Share V
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    Font - yuuoi · 20h Partassipant [1] NTA. Your boyfriend should not be asking you to contribute anything. You are going as HIS date, to keep HIM company, and he should be contributing a gift for the TWO of you. Edit: I saw a good point from one of the replies. perhaps the emphasis should have been that HE should be contributing a gift for two if HE thinks that is more appropriate. G Reply 4 4.2k 3 ...
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    Font - ellensundies • 20h Partassipant [3] 1 Award NTA God no. You are not the Bank of Girlfriend. And if I may say so, $100 is incredibly generous. The plus-one shouldn't even be obligated to pay at all. There is no way I would go if I had to cough up even 100 bucks for people I don't even know. Let him go by himself. G Reply 4 1.3k 3 ...
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    Font - JustnoSnark • 19h At this point l'd decline to go, I agree that he's out of line to even ask to contribute let alone set the amount for you. NTA G Reply 1 85 3 ...
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    Font - NTA your BF appears to be using you to prop up his gift so that he doesn't appear cheap. (Which $200 is plenty by anyone's standards!) Let's face it, BF will be getting all the credit for the gift even if your name is on it because groom barely knows you. G Reply 4 213 3 ...
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    Font - scottish_braveheart · 19h NTA - it's his friends not yours, so unless you have grown extremely close to his friends in the year and a half, he's asking you to give 200 dollars to virtual strangers. He's inviting you with conditions too which isn't great. G Reply 1 25 3
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    Rectangle - jocelina · 20h Partassipant [2] NTA The person invited is usually the one who gives the gift, not the person they ask to accompany them. I mean, if you wanted to contribute that would be fine, but you don't have to. G Reply 4 43 3 ...
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    Font - Aaroniero · 20h Partassipant [2] NTA. I would not ask my partner to give $200 to someone they barely know. Idc if it's for a wedding. And maybe l'm naive about weddings in general, but if this person really is your boyfriend's close friend, I really can't fathom giving $200 would be "too cheap". G Reply 4 24 3 ...
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    Font - NTA The only time I contributed to a wedding gift was when a female friend asked a her plus one (she had broken up with her boyfriend). It was a lovely wedding with dinner, dancing, and an open bar at a hotel, so I paid half the room and the gift. Difference is that I offered to do that: my choice. And my husband drove us LOL. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - AardSnaarks • 19h NTA, like everyone else said. I would also add that after 1.5 years together, the couple should be acknowledging you by name on the invite. If they consider any imaginary +1 equally important as a longtime gf, let imaginary girl pay. G Reply ...
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    Smile - KhalDrogHeaux • 20h Certified Proctologist [25] NTA and you should not be paying any amount G Reply 1 14 3 ...
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    Font - EntropyFaultLine • 16h Do NOT pay any money towards this wedding. Honestly just don't go! G Reply ...
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    Font - DrowBacks • 20h Partassipant [1] NTA, you offering at all to contribute is enough when you don't know the people being married. If your partner doesn't want to appear cheap he should dig deeper in his wallet (though who gives a gift over $200?) G Reply 4 8
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    Rectangle - Playful-Mastodon-872 · 19h Nta. If I were bringing a plus one to a wedding, l'd cover for their share of cash gift. I think generally that's the rule. 仓3 G Reply
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    Font - Andreninja69420 · 13h NTA, that is actually a absurd amount to pay to attend anything, for that price you could be going to a concert, which is way more awesome, just tell your boyfriend that what makes you cheap is being poor and those money management skills of his, who at that age still worries about appearances, his friend should be glad he even got a gift. Plus making you share the gift he is giving is what really strikes me as cheap. G Reply 仓39 ..
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    Rectangle - Crackhead22• 10h NTA - What happened to buying people a serving bowl off their registry or a $30-40 toaster? These amounts are insane! G Reply
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    Font - 2catsaretheminimum · 9h NTA. The plus one doesn't contribute to the gift. G Reply 1 3 + ...
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    Rectangle - Swampdog802· 20h Nta tell your BF to give $400 and sign your name on it if he cares so much. G Reply 金5 ...
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    Font - Calmandwise • 13h Certified Proctologist [20] Oh no. If you are a plus one to a stranger's wedding, YOU don't bring the gift at all. The person who is invited does. You don't even know these people. You are attending as a favor to your boyfriend. Just don't go! O 6 Reply +
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    Font - NTA If he doesn't want to appear too cheap then he can contribute the entire $400 (for you and him) while you go as his plus one. He sounds silly for even suggesting it. G Reply 4 2 3 ...
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    Rectangle - Pinoybl · 3h If I was a guest, and didn't know the wedding party well. I might be stingy. But I would contribute to the gift. But not spend more than 50. A G Reply ...
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    Handwriting - Marialnconnu • 17h Partassipant [1] NTA. Plus ones shouldn't be giving gifts. If he doesn't want to appear cheap and thinks what he's giving is too little, perhaps he should give more. G Reply 4 2
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