Guy Breaks Up With Girlfriend, Tells Her To Move Out, Feels Guilty

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mattstaff
Oct 7, 2021 11:00 AM EDT

At a certain point, you've just got to put yourself first. Especially when it comes to a relationship. If it seems like things are headed nowhere fast between you and your partner, it's only going to benefit everyone involved that much more if you call things what they are, and head on those separate ways. Of course, it's a process that might be easier said than done sometimes. Take this dude for instance. Things are clearly finished. Yet, he still feels some type of way about forcing his girlfriend to move out. I guess there's a layer to the story that makes it understandable: she is going to have to do a bit of a life reset. 

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    Font - AITA for making my ex move out? Not the A-hole Hey everyone. I am 26(m) and I recently broke up with my girlfriend, Lisa, of two years. Lisa had approached me telling me she wasn't happy in the relationship and wanted to work on it more, but nothing I ever did seemed good enough, and it began to feel like I was "working" all the time. On top of that she was flirting with a classmate a lot which made me feel uncomfortable tbh.
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    Font - The issue is, Lisa is in her last semester of college and broke. She doesn't work, her family is unable to help, and the school she attends is already having a housing issue, so they can't help until the next semester which is in late January. Two weeks ago I gave her the thirty days notice required and she blew up.
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    Font - She thinks she can live on campus next semester, but asks that i allow her to have the extra room, but I really don't want that. The relationship is over and I no longer feel responsible for her, but if she moves out she will have to withdraw from her classes which will push her graduation back and she would lose all of the money paid. AITA for telling her she has two weeks left and she needs to be gone? 1.0k Comments Share 97% Upvoted •..
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    Font - MixSafe · 1d Partassipant [3] NTA, maybe her classmate she was flirting with can commit to helping her. 8.3k Reply Share •..
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    Font - MPBoomBoom22 · 1d This is such an empathetic answer. NAH but your breaking up with her has put her in a very precarious position. Flirting with someone else doesn't sound like she cheated and she had approached you wanting to work on the relationship.
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    Font - On the other end sounds like you were the only one contributing financially to the relationship, so it's fair you want her out. 30 days seems like fair notice, enough time for her to get a job and 1-2 paychecks under her belt to put down on some sort of housing solution. 51 3 Reply Share •..
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    Font - IHaveSaidMyPiece · 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [41] The relationship is over and I no longer feel responsible for her NTA That's exactly right. 1.2k Reply Share •..
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    Font - tbryans · 1d NTA. She's an adult and should fend for herself. You weren't responsible for her while the relationship was going on, you're sure as hell not now that's it's over. I know too many people, myself included, who let their exes leech around off them after it's over because they feel guilty. It's not healthy for your mental. 737 Reply Share •..
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    Rectangle - NTA it's sad but not your problem 525 Reply Share •.. 1 more reply
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    Font - MoistTurfuckn · 1d Partassipant [2] NTA? This sounds like emotional trapping. She may play the "Don't make me lose everything" card. All the while she claims to be single but pretends to couple up around only you ( men do this too) this is a tough call but I would stick to your guns and let her do what she needs to do without you. Co-dependency(spelling) is not healthy for singular growth. Do you and let the past go.
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    Rectangle - Full_Fold_8732 · 1d Partassipant [2] NTA. Her life, her issue. 93 Reply Share •..
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    Font - Constant_Camera3452 · 1d NTA. She wants to start seeing other people but also have you continue to financially support her and house her? Are you going to have to see her get all dolled up for dates? Is she going to want to bang guys at your apartment? She can stay with a friend for the next few months. She broke up with you, while you were trying to work on the relationship, and you don't owe her anything. 4 66 3 Reply Share •..
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    Font - AllOutofFs · 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [39] NTA let her go stay with the person she's flirting with. You just can't break up with someone and NOT expect them to put you out. It's not your problem she has nowhere to go and will lose money on school. She should have thought about that before she started making goo goo eyes at someone else. 4 55 Q Reply Share •..
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    Font - Summoning-Freaks · 1d Partassipant [2] NTA. And relationship wise, sounds like a lot of the classic 2 year breakups: the love drugs faded and she's not happy about the reality of the relationship and is chasing those new relationships feelings. You tried to improve the relationship but if nothing you did was good enough and she wasn't happy, breaking up was the next step, there's no point in dragging out an unhappy relationship.
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    Font - NegativeAscending · 1d · edited 21h NAH, it sounded like a fine break up - you're well within your rights to do this, just maybe flip the script and see how you would feel if she did that to you and you were in her situation.
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    Font - StygianSubterfuge · 1d Partassipant [3] NTA, in regards to housing. Hopefully she has some friends she could stay with. Alternatively she could look into finding a part time job or renting a room somewhere. I would however like to point out that most relationships require consistent and constant effort. Much like a pet or a plant without mindfulness and attention a relationship will eventually die unless you put the time into it to make sure it's healthy for everyone involved.
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    Font - nebagram · 1d Partassipant [3] On balance, NTA. If you were to help her you'd need to make it clear you were doing her a massive favour that you'd expect to be repaid later on. If she protests and says you should help her because, well, you should, then she needs a crash course in adulting. Starting with self-reliance. 21 3 Reply Share •..
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