Entitled Mother Fuming After Discovering Children Of Bridal Party Are Allowed At Childfree Wedding

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Oct 11, 2021 12:00 PM EDT

Today's post on the 'Am I The A$$hole?' subreddit features a wedding, so we already know it's gonna be full of drama. OP discovered that even though the bride called for a childfree wedding, her nieces and nephews will be permitted to attend. OP is pissed AF because her own children aren't permitted at what is allegedly a child-free wedding. When she brought it up, the bride claimed that she was closer with her own nieces and nephews and that OP didn't have to attend the wedding if she didn't like the rules. Alas, OP seems like the kind of person to make everything about herself and got the whole family involved in the drama. Most Redditors decided that OP is in the wrong here, but what do you think? Scroll down for all the details, and let s know in the comments. 

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  • 01
    Font - Font - AITA for telling my entire family that my [32f] cousin's [30f] childfree wedding isn't 100% childfree and refusing to attend? I need some insight to see if I'm in the wrong because I really don't feel like I am. I [32F] just received an invite to my cousin Alex's [30F] wedding. It stated on the invite that the wedding was childfree.
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    Font - Font - I'm not new to childfree weddings but what has me frustrated is the fact that there will be children in the wedding. Alex plans on having her and her FH's [33M] nieces and nephews at their wedding. I overheard her asking her sister if her niece could be the flower girl at a family get together. This confused me because childfree means no children, so I called Alex and asked.
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  • 03
    Font - I told her and said that if her nieces and nephews are going, then my daughter [5], similar in age to her nieces and nephews, should be allowed to go, too. Alex said that only those in the bridal party are the exception and that she wants her nieces and nephews at the wedding. When I asked why
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  • 04
    Font - they could come and not my daughter, she said it's because she knows her nieces and nephews are well behaved so there will be no issues. She also knows her sister and BIL parent very well and, to top it off, she is a teacher who wants a day where she doesn't have to deal with the children of others. She also said she is closer to them.
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  • 05
    Human body - I told her that her reasoning was ridiculous because childfree means no kids, including her nieces and nephews. Alex told me if I was more than welcome to decline the invite, so I did.
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  • 06
    Font - I ended up venting to my mother [married to Alex's dad's brother] and while she didn't agree with Alex, she said she could understand her feelings. However, my dad didn't like it and called her dad, my Uncle Mitch, asking why my daughter could not come. Mitch told my dad that it is Alex's wedding and she can do as she pleases. He also said 'cousins' are not
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  • 07
    Organism - the same as 'nieces and nephews' especially since they're in the bridal party. My dad said since Mitch is paying for it that he should talk Alex into allowing children, but he declined and said that he and my aunt don't believe paying for the wedding gives them a say and even if it did, he agrees with Alex.
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  • 08
    Font - This upset my dad, so he then told other family members. Now several members are upset that Alex and her FH's nieces and nephews will be there but no one else is allowed to bring their children. We have a fairly large family and we all watch each others children, so finding childcare will be difficult.
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  • 09
    Font - Most of the family say it's Alex's wedding and her reasons make sense, but I and some of my cousins are refusing to attend. Alex doesn't seem to care one way or the other. One cousin told Alex she was bringing her child anyway to which Alex said, "Make sure you wear sneakers so it's easier on your feet as you're escorted back to your car" which is how we found out she's having the security guard from her school checking the guest list and that he knows to not let any children in. AITA?
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  • 10
    Font - involuntary_cynic · 12h 2 2 3 3 Asshole Enthusiast [5] This has made me laugh. It's her wedding, not some admissions policy for a restaurant. You've basically tried to "speak to the manager" to demand your own way at someone's wedding. Drop it before you create any more drama. Yes YTA.
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  • 11
    Font - Dylaquill · 12h 3 Partassipant [2] YTA. It's her wedding and she gets to decide who can come or not. You complaining to your parents and having your dad call her dad to complain is childish. It might seem unfair but it's her wedding and you don't have any right to argue with her about any decisions that she makes. If you don't agree with her rules then do exactly what she said, don't go. She isn't forcing you to do anything you don't have to do.
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  • 12
    Font - GoldenNebulas · 12h Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] YTA Not your wedding. Politely decline and leave it at that. You and your cousins are being way too dramatic about this.
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    Font - Hangingoutwithyou · 12h Certified Proctologist [22] YTA. I have worked weddings from 2012 to 2019 almost every freaking weekend. It is NOT unusual for a very close relative (to the bride or groom) to have their children as part of the bride and groom's wedding party at a child free wedding.
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    Human body - Schopenhauer_Down · 12h Partassipant [1] One thing about weddings is that someone will always try and cause drama. You're that person. YTA.
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