Woman Fuming When She's Uninvited To Daughters Wedding After Constantly Insulting The Groom

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    Font - Posted by u/throwaway_4aita 9 hours ago 3 AITA for not inviting my mum to my wedding because of callous comments she made about my terminally ill husband-to-be?
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    Font - I'm 21 years old, my fiance is 22, and has terminal cancer. We'd been together for almost 3 years by the time he was told his cancer was terminal, and we decided we wanted to spend our remaining time together as husband and wife.
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    Font - When I told my mum, she strongly discouraged me from getting married to him. She said there's no point in getting married to someone who's just going to die soon after. She was saying things like "do you really want to be a 21 year old widow?" and "what will those wedding photos even look like? Do you want wedding photos where you're standing next to a groom who looks all sick?"
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    Font - I was really disgusted by how cruel she was being about my fiance and his illness. I decided she wouldn't be invited to my wedding unless she genuinely apologised. When she finally did apologise it wasn't genuine, it was like "well I'm sorry, I just wanted to share my concerns" and "it's just my opinion, I'm allowed to have an opinion, aren't I?" She says it's horrible to not invite my own mum to my wedding just for sharing an opinion.
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    Font - She keeps trying to defend what she said and getting mad I don't consider it enough of an apology to let her come to the wedding. My dad and sister are also pretty mad at me, and they think I should just let it go just enough to let her come to the wedding, and have a conversation about it later. AITA?
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I won't accept my mum's apology or just let her come to the wedding and talk about it later, and I'm worried I overreacted.
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    Font - downthevalley · 9h Partassipant [1] NTA Mom is awful. Just one thing: Marrying him won't make you responsible for huge medical bills, will it?
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    Font - Susan-stoHelit · 9h What 'later'? Life is precious, your husbands days are even more precious - don't waste them on your mom. And she can share her opinion. That doesn't mean there are no consequences.
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    Font - No_Bet_2590· 9h NTA. Mom is more worried about the wedding photos than your happiness. Disgusting parenting. Acting like the feeling will be different when he does pass whether or not you're married as wellI. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Not to be insensitive to what's happening, but at least if you're married you'll get a bigger piece of the pie
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    Font - KnowledgeableBench · 7h Your mom asking if you really want to be a widow so young is telling that she only cares about appearances. You're going to lose somebody you love either way, you technically being a widow is irrelevant to that situation. I hope your wedding is lovely and that you and your partner can tune out the extra negativity. Your wedding is about the two of you.
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    Font - Crafty_hooker 7h She is absolutely allowed to have an opinion. So are you. It is your opinion that people who have shown a lack of support for the marriage should not come to the wedding. NTA
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    Font - missplaced24 9h Asshole Aficionado [13] NTA. Why TF would you invite someone who would say such a thing? 52 Reply Share •..
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    Font - melnve · 8h Oh my. I'm so so sorry. I can't even imagine having to deal with a terminally ill partner and a mother who is so devoid of human feelings. You are so NTA. I'm an Aussie, I don't know where you are but I'm glad you have a proper medical system - if you are anywhere near Melbourne husband and I will happily volunteer to stand at the door of your venue and ensure most enthusiastically that your mother is not in attendance.

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